Thank you...someone has some sense on this board! :)

My therapist used to say that all the time. I would waffle on and on about some tale of woe and pain and her response would be "I hear you" - she knew the answers were often within me if only I could be encouraged and have the courage to look for them.

I had a sponsor who use to tell me if im asking the questions then I already have the answer. very true!

And the answer we seek, and often the only one we hear, is the one that validates what we already know.

One of my fav quotes...

"Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are now written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer." (Rainer Marie Rilke)