My opinion is that no higher power has an opinion/will about things like that.

That probably doesnt help you but sometimes there are no right/wrong decisions. We just have to make a choice.

When you think of each decision-which one makes you feel calmest?

I say go with that one.

When in doubt, I was taught to sit in silence (meditation) for guidance regarding a particular situation. Write down what comes to mind. Seeing it in black and white, it is usually evident when something is self will vs God's will. Share with your sponsor if unsure. Motives are a biggie. I was told to watch for selfishness, dishonesty, self-seeking, fear.

Like KK said, there's a calmness about doing the right thing. I usually get that knot in my gut when something's not right. I can't rely on others to make my decisions for me, but it helps to run things by them first. I will ultimately do what I want, but I know in the past I've paid a high price for going with the decision that gave me that sick feeling in my stomach... of course regretting it afterward.

Good luck on getting a new place, though!! Starting fresh and new is always exciting. :-)

~Chris

I'd go with sitting quietly, consider both options and go with the one you feel most drawn to.

I kind of see where Nicky's coming from though...have some confidence that you can make your own decisions on matters like that. You absolutely can, although I know it can be a bit scary sometimes it's about taking responsibility and ownership of your life. Learn to trust yourself Ashley x

Personally, I believe that the God of my understanding would guide me to make good spiritual decisions and to help other alcoholics, not be particularly concerned with the minutiae of my life.

Things like that I am practically equipped and able to deal with all by myself.

My sponsor always gives me good advice when I turn to her - if it is a spiritual matter she turns me right back to God and if it is a practical matter her advice of getting a sheet of paper to write down the pros and cons of the situation go a good way to get clarification. Seeing things in black and white, for and against, is a great way to settle on a safer choice.

Hope it all goes well for you!

You really want to know what your higher wants.? Your higher power wants you to deal with life on lifes terms. God could care less aboutwhat decision you make as long as you include him in the equatsion. Our higher power has blessed us with the power of choice. Thats what makes us human. What helps us decide if thats his will or ours is that we honestly search our hearts for his guidance. If the apt. is still for rent. Maybe hes holding the door open for you. Hes not not going to rent it for you.

make list of good bad vibes for each place and the good bad vibes about the decision to wait another month....then use your own head to make wise choices...

Ashley, my sponsor told me when I sobered up in '92 and asked her the same question about making decisions and I have found it to be true for me over and over..

"If it comes easily, it's God's will. If it's a struggle, it's my will."

Remember also that God gave us brains to use. Are you having difficulty trusting your ability to make decisions?

As an Atheist, I would suggest YOU are your higher power. My daughter left AA due to the constant references to "God" (whatever/whoever that is) and she is not an Atheist, just a very earthy & spiritual person. Have you considered a sober living home? I do not wish to appear negative, as regards AA, but is most certainly is not for everyone. Good luck and get the happy life you deserve. Arlene

For me, my HP is all around, if I keep the channels clear and not take self will back (something I struggle with daily).

How about letting your will / control go and see what naturally comes?

How exciting to be moving :)

I like what KK said, go with your gut Ashley....listen to your feelings. If one of the options gives you anxiety...go with the one that gives you a feeling of calmness. Sometimes when I have a hard decision to make, I'll talk to my friends who know my circumstances and weigh out the pros and cons of each. Sit down and make a list and let your heart lead you. It's much easier to listen to those feelings sober huh? I haven't been on much but you sound wonderful, hope you're doing well Ashley, you've been in my thoughts even if I haven't been around DS too much to tell you. :)

I agree with gr8tful2be - God's will feels right and comfortable - at least that's what I have found.

You indicated that you don't have to make a decision right now - that you have some more time. Maybe you need a little more time in order to make the right decision?

Don't push yourself too hard - you'll get where you are going when you should be there. And please don't let anyone tell you what you SHOULD do - or push you to make decisions that you are not ready to make.