Alcoholism Support Group

Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.

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drcopperhead 08/25/2013

when i get comments like this from AAs, " If you don't get sober in AA, you're not really sober and on a "dry drunk"...try that one on for size (heavy sarcasm intended) "

drcopperhead 08/28/2013

i hope i dont sound like im lecturing?

weinere46 08/29/2013

Dear Copperhead,
No, you do not sound like your lecturing at all. I was once a sponcer in A.A, N.A. and S.A. but A.A., sadly, did not work for me. I am a part of the ten percent that is not saved by A.A.. Nor do you sound like a "dry drunk" for those of you who do not not what this is, a dry drunk is a person who has quit drinking but still goes through all the actions that led to drinking.
I think what your objecting to is that people who have dependent personalities tend to adopt A.A. as if it is a religion and not a method to cure alcoholism. "Their" way or the highway...
That is why I choose to remind everyone that the goal of A.A. is to quit, the how is more important so that others can do the same thereby, getting free! Eric

deleted_user 08/29/2013

AA didn't provide a cure for me, Eric. I recovered so I have no longer have a drinking problem but my staying well is contingent on my spiritual condition.

I'm not sure I understand how you became an AA sponsor if AA didn't work for you?

okiyoe1 08/29/2013

I like this one DC. .......

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=46mO7jx3JEw

okiyoe1 08/29/2013

or this version haha!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SWvtzcPYucQ

drcopperhead 08/29/2013

i cant pick okiy. one is woody. and the other one is just good.

drcopperhead 08/29/2013

thanks weinere46. i just try to share how it was for me. i just hope something that helped me might help somebody else a little. even if u just make them smile and say "yup yup yup im that kind of drunk"

LindaJean 08/29/2013

No dr. I was not saying that you are lecturing - I was just saying that I don't think we lecture in here and it sounded like maybe you thought that some lecturing did go on in here - that's all.

Just expressing my opinion. I know you don't lecture.....

drcopperhead 08/29/2013

thanks LJ i was wondering if its time to switch groups for a while. annoying W&T for a while

LindaJean 08/29/2013

LOL - well someone needs to do something over there to get things moving dr - the forum is dead these days :)

But no - I would never criticize you on the board - not out loud. If I wanted to say something I'd send it in a pm. and besides - who am I to criticize?

deleted_user 08/30/2013

Who cares what others say? They are projecting their own insecurities onto you, can't you see that?

I have found that when someone tries to push anything on me really hard, in a way they are insecure that what they have is not the end all and want to make sure it is. I feel like this happens with lots of things, like religion, lifestyle, marriage and kids (ever had a married friend go nuts at the thought of their non married friend actually being happy and having a life)?....

It is not about AA that they say this-it is an issue within themselves, and it sounds like it comes from a place of fear.

deleted_user 08/30/2013

#41.... Oh how I agree!