Alcoholism Support Group
Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.
I've never done this before but tonight I've reached a fracture point. I'm married to an alcoholic. I love my husband more than anything but tonight he told me that his love for himself was stronger than his love for me, that if I couldn't get on board with his drinking then I needed to pack my bags and get up the road. I sat there as he threw things and pointed out my many faults. I've been told not to take things personally when they are said in a drunken stopor.....I've also read that drunken words are sober thoughts. It's hard not to take these words to heart. He has a lot of deep hurt and sadness, he is a vet who has seen things that I can't comprehend.
Where do I go from here? How do I save a wonderful man who is using alcohol as a coping mechanism? How do I save a man that doesn't think he needs saving?
I want to understand him. I want our marriage to last. I want him to live a happy life.
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check out that smoke ring. It tasted really good. I smothered it with Maulls BBQ sauce which is Local to St. Louis and one of the best I ever had.....
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I was recently separated from my wife of 33 years and it's complicated. Anyway I rented a room about 15 minutes away and I see my kids about once a week. I see the people who own the house I live in once in a while but other than that I stay in my room where I do my cooking, wash dishes in the shower, read, color, and sleep. I get out at least once a day. I grocery shop and I attend 2 meetings...
You need ALOT of support for yourself and Alanon is a great place to find that support. You can google meetings in your area.
https://al-anon.org/
We will keep you and your family in our thoughts and prayers.
God Bless
Your husband may disregard your concerns as nagging and complaining. Perhaps he can hear better when the message comes from a brother in arms.
As for his tirades - why do you stand around and put up with them ? Go for a walk when they start
https://www.dailystrength.org/group/wives-of-alcoholics
good luck. odds are not good but if he decides to get help it is possible.
prayers sent
He won't get sober if you hang around.
This is only my opinion and others will disagree. They will have their own opinion.