I would not have liked to do something like that when I was 2 months sober. The question is: Which is more important to you - your life or your man's birthday party?? You might also think about asking him the same question!

You seem to think that you are in control of your alcoholism in that you seem sure that you won't drink. You have no idea when the most overpowering urge to drink will hit you.

Is he being insensitive? Probably not intentionally. If you think he should be worried about you around alcohol, then tell him that it bothers you. If you know you' ll be fine, then stick to your lemonade and have fun.

I doubt people will pressure you to drink, if that happens, be matter-of-fact, no long explanations and tell them you are not drinking. You don't owe anyone a reason, and it is very rare that anyone really cares whether you drink or not.

The part that might be uncomfortable (or tedious) is being around drunk people. Might help you feel even better about your decision to quit, but you also might want to have an escape plan if that happens.

i dont agree with the above post!!!!!!!!!!!!! brooklyn throw the party and have tons of drinks for yourself like pellegrino sparkling water with lime and also sparkling cider , YOU ARE DOING THIS FOR HIM SO BE AWARE!!! suppose a fight break out , what if there is someone not real about the friendship..sweetheart you have no time to drink and be unaware, your man needs u in a room where he feels comfortable. stay sober and grounded for him and yourself , he will love and respect you more for it, you can make it through 1 night......1 day at a time baby

If you really arent worried, and can invision yourself going to bed SOBER that night...then perhaps its OK.
I did go to a few big boozey events in early sobriety and was fine. I was fine though as I had an exit plan always, I went to a meeting that day, I called my sponsor and talked it through, and I felt it was safe for me to go. My husband is a normie but he's also a huge supporter. In my early sobriety he wouldnt drink at events where I felt akward and that helped.

Let him know you might be uncomfortable and you need to put your sobriety first. Its not his job nor can he keep you sober. But tell him how you feel.

I know some may disagree, but drink non alcoholic beer, odhouls. Don't like beer, drink a VIRGIN Bloody Mary. Possibly a VIRGIN margarita. Get the picture? You will still have a beer bottle in your hand or a pretty glass in your hand. I can tell u, no one is really paying attention to what u r drinking except u. Soda, bottled water? NOBODY cares. I used to think like u, wondering what people think. Just concentrate on being SOBER and being a good host. U can do it.

Put me down as one who disagrees with the NA beer - what's the point? I know a few people who started back on the drink because of the NA beer. The problems with NA beer and virgin mocktails is that they mimic the real deal. We are enjoying vicariously, which can be dangerous for many of us. It's about motives. Check your motives. I used to do the NA beer thing many, many years ago when i quit drinking on my own (lasted a whole 6 months) I also used to do the NA sparkling champagne, the NA wine...hell, if they had NA vodka, I would have drank that too (silly but true)

Anyway, as for your party - it's Sunday, so I am curious how it went.
Most people really don't care what you have in your glass or cup. They are usually concerned about what is in theirs. I couldn't do parties or get togethers where there was booze when I was early on in recovery. Just too dangerous. I may have hurt a few feelings by turning down things, but it's my life...literally. This is life and death stuff.

Hope it all went well :)

Thanks everyone! I did it and went very well! I drank lemonade and sprite all night. Nobody questioned it and no one pressured me to drink. I don't even think anyone noticed what I was drinking. Like you said Paul, I think they were more concerned on what they were drinking. Everyone seemed to have a good time (including me) and me not drinking was no big deal. It was nice to have a get together and I am very proud of myself for staying sober!

YAY good for you. Glad it went well.
You can and you must have a good time sober:-) I enjoy parties now way more than when I was drinking. And now I can remember the good times...don't have to worry about what I said and to who.....and so on and so on.

My late husband was a recovering alcoholic -- I should say "recovered" because he quit drinking before I met him. He did not like being around people who drank, it made him very uncomfortable. I am wondering if being around "drinkers" is a good idea for a recovering alcoholic? Can't people have parties without drinking?!

Are you in recovery? or did you just stop on your own? Do you have a sponsor? What does she say? Are you reading the big book? are you working on the steps?

2 months sober ? .... Your playing with fire. Hope you don't get burnt.