Alcoholism Support Group
Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.
My husband is a functioning alcoholic. We are eight years together and we have a six years old son. When he is sober he is a lovely man. But he is not sober very often. He will go work in the morning and I know he is well and sober. He will call me, several times to check if I am ok and is the only time we can have a prober conversation. On his way home he will drink, and he always tries to hide it.
About a a month ago, I left from London with my son to visit my family in another country. He promised he will try to control his drinking. First night, everything was ok. But then, from Friday night until Monday morning he was lost... he was answering his phone but he was wasted. He admitted that he had two bottles of whiskey the first night and then Saturday morning he had more.. he tried to fix his hang over with more drinking he said! And then Sunday he was really sick. Of course the first night he was drunk he said really nasty things to me, that he couldn't remember the next day. Not the first time that happened. Sometimes he gets angry and fights with me and the next morning he doesn't remember why he is sleeping in the bed downstairs.
About a week ago, I was waiting for him to finish his work at his mums house. He said he was gonna finish soon but the time was passing and when I called he was at the pub with his colleagues drinking a few pints. I told him off. At the end I told him to sleep at his mums house. He took 160 pounds cash and he spend them on drinks and I suspect prostitutes, even though I don't have a proof. But he did it before. He was wasted on Saturday morning.
Sometimes he gets so drunk he is pissing his own bed. When he has whiskey he is aggressive. He thinks that he is not an alcoholic, "I have an alcohol problem but I am not an alcoholic" he told me. At the moment he stays at his mums, getting drunk with his brother.
Me and his mum we will go to AA meetings for families in hope that we can get some help. I am really sad.. so many more I want to say but I feel I will never finish.
I wish I could heal him from this problem. I don't know how...
Sorry to hear that you are having these hard times. The best thing that you can do is to keep going to Al-Anon meetings and to learn to look after yourself.
Your husband probably believes that he is not an alcoholic, simply because he doesn’t know exactly what makes someone an alcoholic. Maybe if you get a copy of The Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous) and leave it around the house that he might read it. There is also a forum here on DS for Wives of alcoholics. Try the link below:
https://www.dailystrength.org/group/wives-of-alcoholics
It may get to the point where you have to decide if you would be better with or without your husband if he refuses to address his problem.