I remember days when I wasn't bored. Days of worry because I spent all my money on drinking and drugs. Driving at night wondering what those headlights REALLY were. Sitting in bars watching the door afraid of who would come in next. Sitting in the back of a squad car watching my wife and kids pack in to the back of her boyfriends truck followed by standing at a 3 inch wide window wondering if I would ever be outside again. Yep ... sure do miss not being bored.

Maybe getting fired or laid off could add an extra punch to the bowl of life and get you going.
Truly, Ashley, I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy and you certainly are not even close to that category.
I'm am only going to suggest practicing gratefulness.
Sometimes we seriously need to stop and smell those gorgeous roses that are somewhere around the corner or right in front of us.
You need a hug and a laugh.
((((Ashley))))

I don't have drama in my life any more. Instead of having an urge to create excitement (ie, chaos) I appreciate and try to maintain routine predictability. Probably partly due to getting older, partly having my son who always injects spontaneity and newness into the routines of the day. But definitely a lot because of sobriety. I can stand to hear my own thoughts today.

What used to feel boring now feels like serenity. :)

Well, if your bored with your life, CHANGE it. There's time to relax and there's time to LIVE. Since I was a little girl, I always wanted to be a black belt, so when I got sober, I went out and got it. What are some things that you have always wanted to do? What were/are you passionate about in life. Hell, just going for a walk around the block can bring so much joy. Watching kids play, smelling the flowers, talking to my neighbours. It's all LIVING. But what I love most about my life is spending time with my daughter. Ashley, you've got to make things happen, and it's not going to if your just being lazy around the house. Coogee xxx

NO, I do not want drama or to drink....I am grateful for all that I have...but come on guys, you have to know what I am talking about...maybe it is just me, damn....
I live alone, I do not have kids, do not need a man but seem to not be interested in too much these days, I know I need to find a hobby but when nothing interest you it makes it kind of hard...

I am not on here trying to complain and moan, just talking about how I feel...

And yes Jim you do have a point, I do NOT want those days back, I do not want to drink, I just want to feel normal...

Normal? What's normal? Ashley, this is a safe place to talk, so don't feel anyone's ganging up on you. These are views and opinions in our experiences. Take what you want and leave the rest. How do you know what would interest you if you don't 'give it a go'. You never know, there might be something out there you quite like. How about looking for a walking group. Or what about some volunteer service, like at your local hospital or old peoples home. I visit a local hospital every 2nd Sunday just to listen and laugh with a few there who don't get visitors. It's amazing the difference you can make to someones day.

Ashley, I seem similar to you....live alone, no kids, no boyfriend but that is just where I am now and it is ok. I think our disease does have us isolate so it is up to us to change it.

Like you, work is a major part of my life and that is ok too. When work sucks, I remind myself to be grateful that I have a job.

My sponsor suggested I try new things and now I have a goal to try a new thing each month to 'get out of myself'.

Last week I went to the theatre on my own and had an awesome time. I nearly didnt go and was giving myself a hard time, it would have been easy to stay at home! I did and walked out of there on cloud 9 :)))))))

'You are part of the world, the world isnt part of you' so you have to get yourself into it :)

I'm with coogee- just get out and start doing something- preferably with a group. Keep trying new things until something sticks. If you need help, give us a list of the things that interest you. Don't hold back- just think about all your hopes and dreams. What do you like to read about? Sometimes, that can lead to a hobby.

Ashley & M8bear, I'm right there with ya! I have a daughter but she lives on her own. I have felt this way lately too, but have been cooped up alone for 6 days with an injury, back to work (and life without pain meds today).

I'm hoping it's just the winter blahs & will go away soon. When drinking, I'd do much of the same except time would pass faster & my mind was so numb, I guess I didn't realize I was bored. Plus I think a lot of people get a little blah after the holidays.

I needed to hear everything said here, thanks to you all, it's helped me too! Ya'll are really a huge help. :) Hope everyone has a great day today.

Thank you all, and I didn;t mean to get so defensive, I know where you ALL are coming from....a little boredom, and life in the slow lane is not a bad thing...
Thanks coogee, I know I do need to get out and DO more, even if like m8bear said, I do it alone at first...
Okay, so I made a list last night of things that I could be doing...it helped and I am going to put it on the fridge so that I can see it all the time and know there is no real reason for me to be sitting in the house :)
Thanks for the encouragement guys, I know I just need to get off my butt and DO IT...

I absolutely know what you mean. I remember the first few AA meetings i went to, I realised pretty quickly that I could relate to other people there and that I had a problem with alcohol but I was terrified of giving it up because what would be left of my life? I,m sure there is a line in the big book that sums this up something like 'would I be doomed to a life that was boring and glum like some righteous folk I know?" but what I heard people saying that eventually gave me the courage to stop drinking was that 'where there was colour now there was grey' i.e. drink takes the colour out of your life, I remember being 10 and having so many interests but as I grew up and started drinking I lost interest in the real world and its taken me a while to get that colour back but I think I have now just by living like a 10 year old. I have the done the most random things like ice sculpting, going to a barn dance, craft evenings, I've bought a bike, developed an interest in world music and who cares if your interest only lasts 5 minutes just get out there and enjoy life like a 10 year old!

Ashely-think about why he had the same day repeat over and over and over. Because he was not grateful for anything. He did nto appreciate the small things in life that make us ultimately happy. I know this sounds dull, but the day I discovered I was happy getting up doing mundane activities we all do like dishes, grocery shop, eat a nice meal, play with my dog and kids....the day I could enjoy the simple daily "boring" stuff I was free! I now am able to enjoy that and more.

I think us alcoholics especially need all the bells and whistles that simply cannot sustain themselves in a normal life-so we make bs excitement. Make sense?

That's great Ashley, now don't procrastinate too long. I just started off with small goals, and then added to them as I went. Gee to start with it was just getting a 1000 piece jigsaw done. I now have a Passion List of things I want to do. Time to live Ashley xxx

Ashley, hang in there. At first, I confused stability for boredom. I was so used to chaos and confusion and the adrenaline rush that even though it was uncomfortable, I missed it because it was familiar. I was like a fish out of water.

What it sounds like you're experiencing is learning how to live without booze. The longer you go between drinks, the more comfortable you will become. What is your recovery plan? Live support system?

I was so underwhelmed by the balanced life. My life for at leat 15 of the 17 I drank was super high or super low. When things got on an even keel I was a bit taken back. Then I realized what a blessing "normal" is. When I got bored I went to a meeting, called someone on the phone, read my bb, or just did something for fun. I have played alot of Halo over the last year.