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going to bf birthday cookout

Ashley8888
Ashley8888
so, today is my bestfriends birthday and he is having a cookout later...I must go and there will be alcohol there....I do not want to drink and I am purposly taking my sister car who would kill me if I drunk and drove....but I know this is going to be a bit challenging....my bf does know that I am not drinking and is supportive but I old him to serve alochol b/c I dont want others to have to hate the cookout b/c of me.....anyways, any tips on getting trough this night clean and sober??? Or really just ways to make it easier?
deleted_user
deleted_user
I was able to do anything in 1983 that I wanted to do and go anywhere and nothing would make me drink but I knew how strongly I felt about it and knew I wouldn't be tempted.

I would guess you know if you can do this or not.
deleted_user
deleted_user
This is your 'monster' talking...

You can have just one...NOT!

You see the fun they are having...that could be you...NOT...not the way we alkies drink...and hurt the next day!

You don't owe them nuttin! you do what you gotta do...live it up with a couple drinks...ur fine...MONSTER VOICE!!!

Tomorrow u can start over...u will be fine!...Monster saying this, but means that...meaning this could get you started drinking All Over Again!
Ashley8888
Ashley8888
That is good...I can not let my MONSTER win while I am there...I have to have control over me and not let that voice get me in trouble..."I" do NOT want to drink!!!! I am sure I can do this...I will leave early too if I feel uncomfortable or if I am tempted.
nodp2day
nodp2day
You actually get to watch THEM walk to the edge of the pit... how the few drinks progress from fun to depression to "I don't give a shit" to puking over the fence. What an opportunity to WIN
deleted_user
deleted_user
Oh we have been there.. In fact I just posted last weekend, I had my first social gathering.. Just go there with the intent of having a good time, and celebrating your bf's birthday.. Keep a bottled water, or something in your hand, that way, no one will ask if you want anything to drink.. If u want to read my last journal, it tells everyone who I got through.. I think it might help ur situation.. Believe in yourself... Let us know how it goes..
deleted_user
deleted_user
yup, it will F with your head...keep the upper hand! You can do this!

Tomorrow...come back and do tell how you put your "Monster" to bed! lol
krm
krm
Just be yourself and say no thank you, if they push say I don't feel like it tonight.
Ashley8888
Ashley8888
I will for sure....thanks for all the support everyone:)
I will be here to brag about my success...:)
JanMichelle2002
JanMichelle2002
Good luck Ashley, enjoy yourself - You can do it without alcohol. Honest!
Ashley8888
Ashley8888
yeah, im back home and sober!! yeah for me!! It really wasnt too bad these friends are not really alcoholics and didnt even drink that much...I salivated a little but kept my cool....it feels good now.
the only thing that made me kinda mad was that my friend had told one of his other friends that I was on the wagon and I guess an alcoholic....Im not ashamed just do not think it was his place to tell other people...kinda awkward...guess Ill have to talk to him about it....

But Im sober and I feel good!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
If she is making fun of you, she knows she has a problem too. Otherwise, why would she care that you aren't drinking? Shit, say you are preggers... that will stir up some shit! (j/k) Or she was an ugly biatch and you are pretty! Hahhaa! Then she would be looking for something to hurt you with. Well, regardless, I am so proud and happy for you sweet! Huggles
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