I had the same thing happen early on .. the scared part and living situations. I just prayed for, what it was I needed.. I was always taken care of .... but some decisions I let go and would not decide on..those decisions ended up being made for me.

I highly suggest doing the foot work on the places your sponsor spoke about as a safe guard .... I didn't and was not happy with my direct avoidance of these things and their outcome

Oh!! they say a smidgen of willingness opens a door! I've found that to be true:)
Billy

I think it is a natural and normal human instinct to want to live in a home that is safe both emotionally and physically. I went through moving home and town last year and I was extremely focussed on finding a safe place too - I am a single woman living alone too. I had done loads of research and when it came down to it was able to find a place in a low-key neighbourhood - nothing flashy - I don't want that anyway, but nice, polite neighbours etc.

Have you considered sharing with someone? That might make living in a better neighbourhood and a better home a possibility.

Ashley

If you allow yourself (key words here) to remain in a state of fear and react to events in that frame of mind, you may well miss solutions to the problem that are popping up right in front of you.

A strange and paradoxical thing happens for many of us when we completely commit ourselves to a course of action and say full speed ahead and damn the torpedoes. But it isn't just about acceptance as resignation or admitting defeat, as the commitment actually creates a new reality, not just in the space between the ears, but in the realm of facts and the direction our lives actually takes. As an old AA clich goes, if I had achieved the goals I wanted to set for myself in early sobriety, I would have sold myself a mile short.

I love this quote:

"Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation) there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one's favor all manner of the unforeseen, which no man could have dreamed would come his way."

So wrote W.H. Murray in a book called "The Scottish Himalayan Expedition." Whether the expedition is to climb a mountain or to find meaning and happiness in recovery from alcoholism, the same dynamic seems to come into play. I have yet to face a problem in living sober where re-committing myself to the basics has failed to open my eyes and mind to resources and opportunities that I literally couldn't see or imagine a day or even an hour before. But when I've stepped back from whatever was bugging or puzzling me and put the focus back on recovery as my primary purpose, I've actually begun see concrete opportunities and resources that were already flowing in that stream of events around me. Sometimes the solutions were so obvious that it's downright embarrassing to admit that the only reason I didn't see them was that I couldn't pry my eyes off my bellybutton.

How, you might ask, can anyone be so self-absorbed as not to see a solution that's right in front of him? If y'all promise not to laugh too hard, I'll be happy to provide some stunning examples from the Legend of Moi.

You don't know for SURE that you will be in an unsafe place if you choose the income level home! I sponsored a woman who only paid $30 which was 1/3 of her income to live in a brand new apartment in a very very nice residential neighborhood. I live just southwest side of Minneapolis, MN. I paid $750/mo for a place not as nice as hers! The apt. came with underground parking, brand new appliances, washer/dryer.

I just moved from home of 11 yrs in my little home town I grew up in...nice bedroom community....when I got word I had to move I freaked because I have two big dogs and needed a fenced yard and house and affordable....I searched CL for houses...first one I found sounded right...I looked was in City limits....not right for me I thought...I went and paid for a housing service to find me a house...$89 down the drain....the house from CL actually was the place I am in now....when I got the envelopes to mail to Landlord he lives right next to an old friend of mine of 30yrs...who lives in very very nice home....owns pizza parlor...the guy loves me because he knows I lived in last place 11 yrs and he has had tenant hoppers come and go with all those blasted needs when new tenant comes in...and he knows I am friend of friend...so we get along great....rent is good here and I am safe...neighborhood is pretty quiet....dogs have fenced yard, I removed the door and installed a door that I had cut doggie door installed into for them to have freedom....when I am gone....I can be gone 12hrs sometimes....needs of dogs do not wait that long unless they can go outside on their own....so I love my new place...hopefully you will find same...oh the job I had when I moved in on Saturday called on Monday and let me go because of some contract crap....Landlord never new...until recently getting new job that I was unemployed for six months....now I quit that new job and I ain;t telling him I have limited income now either...just make sure my rent gets paid....doing the right thing helps us feel better....

I try to do the footwork, the rest is not up to me.

Reading this I would post the same as Tiny.....we do the work, Hp does the worrying.

Know your HP has always looked after and still will. You have to trust that things will work out as they are meant to. Sometimes hard when we are going through things where we want to control and do not understand why.

I also read in your other post that you are on step 4...there will be alot going on right now within so make sure you take care of you.

Lastly....you need to do the work with this move. Don't just think things will fall into your lap....as others have said, get out and check out the areas and do the viewings. You will be looked after.

Peace to you and great to see you on the journey with us :)

Hello Ashley,

You are not wrong or selfish in praying to God about your situation but perhaps you could direct your prayers in a different direction. Why not pray instead that you can discover what Gods will is for you and to be prepared to accept Gods plan.

When faced with making decisions we look at the facts as we know them and weigh up the options. However, we can rarely see the whole picture and what seems like a bad outlook for the future can turn out to be a great opportunity.

Take a look at the Step 4 prayer that deals with fear, on page 68 of the Big Book:

We ask Him to remove our fear and direct our attention to what He would have us be. At once, we commence to outgrow fear.

It's never selfish to ask for Gods guidance . God loves it when you come to him and humbly ask him for his strength and wisdom. He knows your problems . He has always known your problems.He wants you to recognize that hes there for a reason. For you to reach out to him in your daily meditations and ask for that guidance. God will lead you and keep you safe from harm. Trust that your faith will never let you down

Thank you all sooo much for your words of hope and wisdom!!! I read a few last night before bed and I really prayer for this to be in God's hands!

Today I had to go and do some paper work on ending my "situation"...It actually felt really good and freeing!!! I have fought it for so long and was so scared but now that it is in motion, it feels really good! Its not the complete end until a few months but I am trusting God for today and that feels really good too!!

You all really helped so much with your experience, strength and HOPE!!! I know I can be independent again and really cant believe how ok, even good I feeling today! :) Kind of helps that it is the warmest it has been all year! Its 72 degrees here in Ky today and is soooo beautiful out!

Honestly I cant thank you all enough! It feels really good to hear that others have gone through (or know someone) the same thing and came through ok!

I know I have a lot to be grateful for! I have OPTIONS, and it is because of AA! If I were out there on my own, and drinking, I would be totally alone and really freaking out!!! I am so grateful for you all here at dailystrength, my sponsor, the women in AA, AA as a whole and that I AM SOBER TODAY because of my higher power and AA! :)

Ok, enough of all that, gotta go pick up some girls, and then off to a meeting :)

again thank you all for helping me get a new perspective on the whole situation! :)