Good for you for wanting this! I was in the same spot as you. I had two women I had asked and there was not a lot of face-to-face time with them.

I did have a sense of urgency about it and wanted to go through the Big Book one on one. I actually had a woman ask me who I was going through te book with and I told her who it was but that we had only met once in about two months. I would see her at meetings and we would talk, but I really wanted to get moving on the steps.

She offered to work with me and it's been great. Moving steady.

For me it was a matter of priority. I didn't want to wait. I know I made the right decision.

I'm not going to advise you... just share what happened to me. I was ready and the teacher appeared.

Wish you luck! Feel free to PM me.

Hugs
~Chris

Yes, find another sponsor and tell this one to get her ass into Al Anon before she does any more damage to herself and others. From what you describe, she sounds rigid, incompetent and in it only for power.

I went to every big book study and found a very good step study in my area. I took my fifth step with my sponsor and I could get a hold of him every once in a great while when I had questions on the steps. All things considered he taught me alot about how not to sponsor.

Thank you all! I think I have talk to her soon about how I feel!! I did once but it was very brief and I didnt push it but i think I have to be a lot more honest with her...I am not good at asking for people for help or asking for their time...But i think if I tell her again maybe she will understand...we have a meeting together tomorrow, wish me luck lol

I take my sponsees through the big book and we meet once a week until the steps 1 to 9 are done and they are into a good practice of steps 10, 11 and 12. I dont think that the steps shoud be a long drawn out process. How cruel is it to say to someone yes I know a solution to your problem which can save your life but sorry i am too busy to meet up and share it with you.

One thing for certain ....your Sponsor must have what you want. That is ~ Sobriety with Depth & Dimension. Meaning that she does the work. Not just talk about it.

It's a 2-way street, the Sponsor/Sponsee relationship. I meet with my Sponsor on a weekly basis - we go over the big book. We both made this commitment. Also, my Sponsor and my Sponsee-Sisters meet once a month for 3 hours. We go to all of the Area Assemblies and Committee Meetings and as many workshops as we can - together.

I would not be as far as I am with my sobriety, if all I did was go to meetings and I had a Sponsor that wasn't there to help encourage me and cheerlead me on - and WORK with me!

I currently have only one sponsor ... because my schedule is really packed with a FT job, PT school AND my AA commitments ~ which are pretty involved ... Chair of my District .... handle the schedule for the 2 county jails in my District, participating in the Correctional Facility Contact Program, and do orientations with new GSRs, plus a few other things in AA. Oh, and see a counselor once a week (I just started doing that).

I wouldn't be of any service to a new sponsee at this time until I get rotated out of my AA commitments.

Good luck talking with your Sponsor. It doesn't hurt at all to be proactive and tell her what you need.

Whoops, I mean I currently only have one SponsEE. I don't suggest to get more than one Sponsor.