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Finding something to"drink"

Clementine5
Clementine5
I've been sober 42 days now! The big problem I've come across is that I love eating out, and the majority of my favorites restaurants are basically ale houses, Bourbon bars etc.(Kentucky y'all) First times eating out I was too scared to ask the bartender many questions about if any of the cocktails could be made into a Mocktail, so I ended up just ordering soda water, which is fine but not my favorite. Well after getting more confident I gave the alcohol menus more of a look, and found both of my favorite restaurants have Mango Puree that they add to some of their cocktails. So I asked for soda water with the mango puree and lime, and WOW! it was so delicious. Now I have a new favorite drink and feel confident ordering it. Any one have any other AF drinks they like to order at restaurants? Besides the typical shirley temple.
robertalcfree
robertalcfree
Congrats on 42 days! The early ones are the toughest and you're doing great.

I usually have iced tea or an occasional non-alcoholic beer when I'm out. I understand some stay away from the NA options for fear of wanting the real thing, but this has never been an issue for me in the four months I've been sober. Kaliber is my favorite non-alcoholic beer option, as well as Claushaler when you can find it. I also like the non-alcoholic ginger beers. There are some bartenders who are quite cool and will go out of their way to make you an NA cocktail if you tell them what flavors you're interested in.

Wishing you continued success!
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
In the beginning, I always stayed away from places like that, they were triggers for me but congratulations on 42 days!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Congratulations on 42 days! Wishing you a happy and peaceful holiday season.

I like cranberry juice with tonic water and lime! Lemonade and iced tea all year round!
Impermanence
Impermanence
I like hot water.
robertalcfree
robertalcfree
bobinmaine makes a good point. Just to clarify my earlier post, I stopped hanging out in the bar area with the friends I used to frequent. When I do go out now, it's usually for dinner with a friend or guest and I sit in the dining area. Not at the bar.
abshoefreakshow
abshoefreakshow
I am at a point that I can go anywhere without even wanting a drink. I can go out to dinner, I really don't go to bars anymore. The last time was about a month ago and just had sparkling water.
I would rather use those empty calories on something else. I am happy for you that you are 42 days sober. Sooner or later you will get to the stage in your life that this will no longer be an issue. You will go out in public and just order blah blah blah that is non alcoholic without a second thought. This will be a non issue. Congrats to you
jeffneedshelp
jeffneedshelp
Raw Coconut water with fair trade coffee.
fairygirl3
fairygirl3
I like cranberry juice and club soda. Yum.
Clementine5
Clementine5
Honestly i've sat at the bar twice at these restaurants, because there was too long of a wait for a table. I had no issues, didn't really have a craving for drink. My friends I was with didn't know I quit drinking and offered me sips of theirs to try and I turned them down easily. I've kind of tricked my brain into thinking i'm unable to drink. And so to me the option of drinking is not even allowed in to my thought process, it has definitely helped. The only time I was wanting to drink was on my birthday, when I was about 30 days sober. But I got through it, ordered a shirley temple at the bar. Now just exploring and finding other drinks options.
1is2many
1is2many
I am double club soda w extra lime. That is a code and the bartender always gets it.

I honestly don't sit in the bar areas anymore. Not my game

Glad you are making progress

I love going out as well and ordering a big steak. Yum

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Community LeaderExJerseyGirl2
ExJerseyGirl2
It depends on my mood. Usually just club soda with lime. But sometimes I will get a splash of juice (grapefruit or cranberry) with club soda and lime.

I prefer sitting at a table because I think it is easier to talk to the people I am with, but I don't mind sitting at a bar.
FairiIse
FairiIse
I don't go to licensed premises unless it is for a meal so I have a pot of tea, soda water and lime or a J2O.
stickywick
stickywick
I order water; soda or ice tea. Sometimes ice coffee. what I don't do is order "mock" anything. And I don't drink out of wine glasses.
Its a slippery slope for me. I went the non alcoholic beer; and virgin mojito route a few times when I tried to get dry. I drank again.
I also feel comfortable going anywhere --- and ordering booze free drinks. the waiters could give a rats arse if you drink or don't drink.
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