Ignore him - in those situations. That is acohism talking.

Sit him down sober and talk to him about your program and why you are trying to be better for not drinking. Tell him that you don’t judge his drinking, but please respect your decision.

Honesty is everything. It may get to the point you don’t invite your uncle any more or you don’t attend events he’s attending.

"Misery Loves Company"

Ingore him. And remember "No, thank you" is a complete sentence and does not require explanation. If he persists, I guess you could tell him "I choose to live sober, I see you don't."

The only reason he is offended by your refusal is that it shines the spotlight on his excuse for drinking ("Everybody drinks/gets drunk") and highlights the fallacy of his argument.

All good advice, I will definitely keep all this in mind during the next family get-together especially since my family loves to drink everytime there's an occasion

Anyone pressuring you to pick up a drink is doing you no favors. "First Things First"...Your sobriety needs to be the most important thing.

My best advice...just walk away.

One seldom gets someone drinking heavily...to hear anything other than what they want to hear.

Play with the kids. Help in the kitchen. Drive an older relative home. Find a reason to get called into work or otherwise leave early.

An extra shift at work, quiet night at home, AA meeting, or even a movie by yourself...is better than being the verbal punching bag of people who've got nothing better to talk about than why someone doesn't want to get as drunk as they do.

The ignorance of others when we are seriously trying to not drink and hoping our lives will be better as an outcome for not doing so. To this day it still worries me, and still I can get so resentful at it, I myself can lose a day or two obsessing over it. "If only they understood" my mind usually goes to. I usually then start blaming God, my default position for every time things are hard, or don't go the way I think, or when others are not helping, and do not have the ability to understand.

My suggestion for people you used to drink with, not believing not drinking is your future, is to refuse the drink, but then instead of trying to ignore them, or cut them out of your life, engage in them and help them, and start treating them like they are who they are and see if you can help. I've found most people who I used to drink with, who either belittle my sobriety now, or urge me to drink with them, sadly are battling their own misery, and usually just want someone to be around them or talk to them. They want someone to pay attention to them, they are probably lonely, confused, powerless, just like me.

If the people are too much, meaning they make my insides hurt with how they act or aren't helping me, I admit it and the pain it is causing me to God, and ask him for mercy, or for some solution, accepting there are some things I cannot change, and that includes people who either won't or can't support me no longer drinking that I used to drink with.

I also have found through much pain that I depend on others, and had depended on others entirely too much, often absolutely, when drinking. I was always using others to get another drink, or to drink more than I could afford, and just because I get sober, those people still remember, I did that, so if they feel the right moves are giving me a little shit, now that I am not going to use them anymore to get more than my share of stuff, I have to accept that might be their way of healing.

all good advice, thanks much for the feednack (sorry fpr the delayed response btw).

I got a lot of practice today, took all of your advice and us e it at a family get together today. I think the fam got the message today and thankfully eased up on the peer pressure

This is a great update that I missed Timo.