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I dont mean in the complacency way, more the literal way.
Regularly I forget, and I also forget about alcohol.
I find myself at the bar - Normally only with my partner who is my safety net. But we will be out for dinner and I will go to get the drinks, he checks if im ok doing that and Its only then that I remember.
Last night I nipped out briefly on my own to see my partners family - When I got there they were having drinks and I stayed for a quick water - it turned into a few hours, at one point in the middle I remebmered that I was in a drinking enviornment - they were all very merry. But up to that point I didnt even notice the alcohol. Even then I was fine - and I was without my safety net.
Other times things happen and sometimes I think - Id really like a glass of wine, then I have to remind myself that I dont because Im an alcoholic.
I know a few people will think you have to have it front and foremost in mind. But i find it quite normal if unexpected.
Does this happen to anyone else?
Regularly I forget, and I also forget about alcohol.
I find myself at the bar - Normally only with my partner who is my safety net. But we will be out for dinner and I will go to get the drinks, he checks if im ok doing that and Its only then that I remember.
Last night I nipped out briefly on my own to see my partners family - When I got there they were having drinks and I stayed for a quick water - it turned into a few hours, at one point in the middle I remebmered that I was in a drinking enviornment - they were all very merry. But up to that point I didnt even notice the alcohol. Even then I was fine - and I was without my safety net.
Other times things happen and sometimes I think - Id really like a glass of wine, then I have to remind myself that I dont because Im an alcoholic.
I know a few people will think you have to have it front and foremost in mind. But i find it quite normal if unexpected.
Does this happen to anyone else?
recently the owner stopped allowing us to have a "shift drink" meaning a free drink after work (I am a server)...I was actually glad but had to fake like I wasnt with others...but I see peoples alcoholic behaviors now....my manager still goes behind the bar and pours herself some wine and guzzles it...yuck and one other girl, a chef, was telling me she knows she needs to cut back....she used to always have her "shift drink" and a few more too....
I am glad that I do not have to sneak drinks...I am glad I am not in denail anymore either :)
That is very awsome that you do not have craving around others drinking...I hope to get there too....
I dont go to bars often. we mostly go for meals. Maybe I could have been clearer, also he is my safeness because I know he won t ever tempt me. So i feel safe with him.
Alcohol is going to go away. Neither will my disease. Shit ive had about 4 cravings today alone.
The situation yesterday was kinda unique - I was alone becuase my partner was outta town. So I kept myself real busy and was only going to the bar to drop off a child.
While there I had my partners kids so i brought them in for a juice while we waited on their mom.
Its just that it hit me "omg, ive been in a drinking enviornemet for 2 hrs without realising or wanting, and it was fun"
I would not deliberately put myself in a tough spot. Im careful to not get complacent.
I remember every racing thought being about alcohol.
The one thing I remind myself constantly is I put so much effort into my drinking now I need to put just as much effort into my sobreity and alittle bit more for insurance. :)
I find that it is dangerous for me, being in that mental state. You see, my disease likes to tell me that I don't have it; and I in turn would use that as an excuse to drink.
All too many times I have thought, "One won't hurt." This type of thinking always comes when my alcoholic "amnesia" rears it's head. I don't like to play with my recovery, or this disease.
This deal is patient and if I get in a space where I am forgetting what it used to be like, and what happened I am on very dangerous grounds.
"One day at a time" (AA)
Dipso, ditto! That's the ticket!
I wasn't one of those drunks who needed a "1001 Reasons why I'm not a drunk or it's ok to drink." I drink because I'm a drunk is good enough. I don't need or have to rationalize and justify it in advance.
I do have to stay on guard especially when I think I don't have to because of that "peculiar mental twist" where it "just happens" all on its own.
I will never forget in the sense of "go on, have one, it wont matter/you can handle it/ you mustnt be an alcoholic"
I dont think people totally get where my post was coming from. I will never forget the disaster my life had become and all the crap that we know comes with the deal
What i think is so bizarre is that i dont even notice OTHER PEOPLE drinking. I completely forget its an issue.
I met a man in group who drinks in a bar everynight but drinks pints of water because he goes for the social side. I couldnt beleive it when he told me. But I get it now.
I think I will discuss it with him further this week because he will get it lol.
Thanks for all the posts though, it was interesting to see everyones views.