Alcoholism Support Group
Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.
Let every man do according as he is disposed in his
heart; not grudgingly, or of necessity.
Anonymous
I had an assistant named Joel who did not know how to say no. He would say yes to everything and then not do the things he did not want to do. Psychologists call this passive-aggressive behavior. Once I asked Joel to go into town to pick up a computer part. He assured me that he would, and then delayed and delayed doing it. Finally he made the trip one afternoon, and when I asked him about the part the next morning, he told me he could not find the shop. I gave Joel explicit instructions, and he went back into town the next afternoon. I received a call from him asking, What was the name of that company? After several attempts he finally got the part, but in retrospect, I wish he had told me outright that he did not wish to do the job. It would have been a lot easier to get someone else to do it.
I have a simple definition of integrity: Say yes when you mean yes, no when you mean no, maybe when you mean maybe, and I dont know when you mean I dont know. We get into trouble and confuse others when we say yes when we mean no, maybe when we mean I dont know, and on and on through all the permutations. You are in integrity when what youre doing in the outer world matches what is real in your heart.
In college I read a book by Sidney Jourard called The Transparent Self. The title speaks for itself. We usually do much better to let people know what is going on inside of us than to play a presentation game that is out of sync with our inner truth.
When my friend told her teenage son that she did not like him hanging out with the working-class kids in school, he told her, I like these kids because theyll tell you exactly who they are and what is going on with them.
If you tell your truth with your actions but not your words, youre going to have to come back and admit where you are. Save yourself and others trouble by being direct at the outset; honesty always serves best.
Give me the courage to tell my truth in word and deed.
I trust -who I am, I speak what I believe,
and I live what I know.
A Deep Breath of Life Alan Cohen
heart; not grudgingly, or of necessity.
Anonymous
I had an assistant named Joel who did not know how to say no. He would say yes to everything and then not do the things he did not want to do. Psychologists call this passive-aggressive behavior. Once I asked Joel to go into town to pick up a computer part. He assured me that he would, and then delayed and delayed doing it. Finally he made the trip one afternoon, and when I asked him about the part the next morning, he told me he could not find the shop. I gave Joel explicit instructions, and he went back into town the next afternoon. I received a call from him asking, What was the name of that company? After several attempts he finally got the part, but in retrospect, I wish he had told me outright that he did not wish to do the job. It would have been a lot easier to get someone else to do it.
I have a simple definition of integrity: Say yes when you mean yes, no when you mean no, maybe when you mean maybe, and I dont know when you mean I dont know. We get into trouble and confuse others when we say yes when we mean no, maybe when we mean I dont know, and on and on through all the permutations. You are in integrity when what youre doing in the outer world matches what is real in your heart.
In college I read a book by Sidney Jourard called The Transparent Self. The title speaks for itself. We usually do much better to let people know what is going on inside of us than to play a presentation game that is out of sync with our inner truth.
When my friend told her teenage son that she did not like him hanging out with the working-class kids in school, he told her, I like these kids because theyll tell you exactly who they are and what is going on with them.
If you tell your truth with your actions but not your words, youre going to have to come back and admit where you are. Save yourself and others trouble by being direct at the outset; honesty always serves best.
Give me the courage to tell my truth in word and deed.
I trust -who I am, I speak what I believe,
and I live what I know.
A Deep Breath of Life Alan Cohen
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My 6mo twin DD's are EBF and just started rice cereal on the first. Everything has been going fine except this morning one of them had a diaper rash (lots of redness around her anus). I read this as one of the signs of an allergy. BUT I did just buy a different brand diaper yesterday (which they have used randomly before w/no issues). Do you think its the cereal or the diaper? Im ready to start...
I know for me that the things I didn't or don't say where/may be cloaked in fear.
sometimes quickly and sometimes slowly....one may outgrow the fabrication of the false self... the self that hides from the world, but mostly from oneself.
Give me courage to know who I am and tell my truth in word and deed!
Thanks Billy
Cheri....aka Ree