Goes back to are a victim or volunteer to toxic situations?

Thank you sir for the reminder. This is one of the reasons I really love my peeps in recovery -- there is no way that i could do this deal alone.

Because of your friendship I have been reminded to sweep around my own front proch today.

You are so cool, GJM!!!!

Darrell

This is true.

Not all conflict is without meaningful progress, though, so I think there are more possibilities than just "victim" and "volunteer".

Just my HO.

very true.........i have learned about this the last month.........you also have to deal with it in some cases or its like you are burying it.......then let go and let god helps too.

This is true. And I refuse to participate.

Why is it that people act surprised when they antagonize and respond in kind to conflict? I am guilty too.

Maddening to watch. I am no better except I am keeping my mouth shut. ...I might finally have to step away from the boards for awhile. I am deeply disturbed and yes I recognize the problem is in me.

Got me beat. All I can stand to do is succumb or walk away.

Peace all.

So very true!

Lesson learned today for myself. This could not of come @ a better time. Boy!

This is truly a wise statement. I fail at this sometimes. But sometimes I'm good at being aware of it and realize my participation can be destructive to the situation. I don't want that in my life or anyone elses.

However, I absolutely agree with tpkelly. A conflict can be a place of growth and understanding for us all.

There are toxic people though. Those who are only interested in "being right", criticizing with no openness of mind.... or are only here to antagonize. They are not here to learn from others... Here just to be cruel or to prove they are ALWAYS "one top of their game"... really sad..

I have been guilty of participating in conflict. But most times I realize that these cold keys that we type on isn't an effective communication as it would be in person. I try to keep that in consideration. There is a lot of misunderstanding on here as a result which causes conflict when that was not what was intended.

I love this reminder!

"Let go let God" comes to mind. So does "do I want to be right, or do I want to be happy". Conflicts start within me. It's the battles within myself that needed the most work. I agree that all conflict is not bad. Much of it lays the groundwork for change and growth.

all i know is that i have fought boredom and lose.......so now i watch


and in doing so i have rediscovered. i have a dear friend desperately pulling me from the "watch"................i love her dearly............and one day i will become the man i once was.


conflict is the hammer to the heart.....................

Grrr i wish I could remember this when I ENTER conflict lol.