I would remember that this person is a co worker #1. She might be just the same, your just sober.
A true friend would be happy your bettering yourself. The rest of those people are all gossip buddies and bar flies.
If a co worker came up to me and I was STILL DRINKING and they said something like "btw, u don't seem happy I quit drinking", i think i would look at them funny and probably gossip to other coworkers that I could careless and think what is this persons problem...

Giday SG, many of my so called mates in my cups soon dropped off the scene when I put the grog down. I guess that in fact they were not my mates just someone to drink with so we did not appear to have a drinking problem.

Some saw my journey and found their truth in my story hard to reconcile with dropped off so they did not have to face their truth.

SG for me what is paramount is what is important to me, and that is my loved ones. If I am doing something to better myself my loved ones support and encourage me.

Others who want to bring me down is normally a reflection of their own fears.

Wish you well G8

A lot of people don't want to lose their drinking buddies. They also don't want to think about that maybe they should be quitting too.

Your friend might not be ready to face her own drinking problem. She might be worried that if you don't drink together you won't have as much in common.

it's a big change when we finally stop drinking. Not just for us but for those who are close it us, and it can be a difficult adjustment for some. Sometimes it is too much and friendships drift apart.

I too just drifted away from the drinking buddies. I have to stay away from old playgrounds and playmates.

I have one lifetime friend that I will always be close to and each time I see him I actually feel guilty. He stumbles and produces a lot of beer bottles. I found the most surprising things he will say like, I have to go make a deposit at the bank when we both know he's going out to buy beer. He just can't help it he's sick.

I am greatful I am not in the hooks of the booze

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I have a close friend who drinks. I don't think that she ever drank as much as I did. Out of the blue last winter, she brought up that she was concerned about her drinking and even had a blackout experience. I know that she drinks wine and vodka at home and she drinks a few when she goes out socially. This was around the holidays and she said that when she "got back from vacation" she'd cut back.

She's brought it up a few times since then and told me she cut back but the other night when we were talking, I could tell she was drinking. I just casually told her that it had been nearly a year since I'd had a drink.

Anyway, she and I are both home during the day and we never get together. The same with my sister, who could give or take booze. I don't know if they are awkward about drinking or don't think I have any money.

I lost a lot of my friends when I stopped drinking; some where great people and others I realized just wanting to party and didn't care if I was alive or in a ditch somewhere.
Quitting drinking has shown me who my true friends are; the ones that made a point to stay in my life and support me are amazing and my friendships with them have only evolved and strengthened.
Sometimes people get nervous or unsure of what to do or say when a friend decides to get sober. They are afraid of saying or doing something that will be provocative.

Remember, others are sick. Whether from the grog, mental, or just spiritually.

This individual said something to you in a moment about not drinking. They have likely decided to continue. Your being sober is a reminder.

Things change when you stop drinking. I find that I really don't have much in common anymore with active drinkers. All the bullshit talk just starts to get very tiring. I find drinkers can really have very negative kinds of talk that I just don't want to be around when I'm trying to stay sober. Most of the reason's I want to stay sober is that I want positivity in my life. Drinking for me was so depressing, that I just can't stand it. When I'm not drinking I like positive thoughts, and drinkers just don't have much of this. Just sit some time around them and listen. you will see it. This doesn't mean I have to avoid drinkers, I find I just need to be careful of the time I spend with them. Watching them can be a really good learning experience.It can bring me down if I stay too long, or it might seem like fun and suck me in. Anyway, have a good day.James