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Can't Stop

hopeinjoy
hopeinjoy
I'm trying to come out of a relapse of my addiction. I woke up this morning and was pretty much fine, I just thought I'd use a little to have a little comfort before I start my day. I think the thought was, I don't know if I can really face the day without it (it's been so long since I've tried). I got really sucked in, even though I became increasingly annoyed and felt increasingly tied down. The longer I spend in addiction this morning, the more nervous I get about facing my problems. I was only a tad nervous when I first woke up. What da hell is my problem? I hate this. I hate that this made me put off for so long making friends, working, having a life. I don't understand why I don't just function like a normal person. Then of course it makes you feel bad about yourself, so you want to hide away. I feel like ripping my hair out. This is just not sustainable.
stickywick
stickywick
Glad you are here. I can relate. I'm powerless over so many things in my life. I'm definetly powerless over alcohol. But I didnt think so. Not for a long long time. What I learned is that the first drink sets off the cycle you describe. Craving, trying not to give in, giving in, remorse, self loathing, then more of the same.
For me I needed a power greater than myself to rely on to take away that craving, and a program to keep me in touch with that power.
I have to trust my HP, clean house, and help others.
How do I do that? I do it a day at a time through AA.
there are many programs out there --- the one that won't work is the same old same old.
So pick one and surrender.
PJ54
PJ54
Hello hopeinjoy,

You do not specify what your addiction is but if it is alcohol it is probable that you will need help in order to deal with it.

You are caught in a circle of using, feeling guilty, trying to stop and using again when you fail. When you are on the inside of that trap it looks pretty hopeless and you cant see any way out. However, the door to freedom is easy to open once someone turns the key from the outside. Go to a meeting and find a way to open that door.

Dont wait until next week or tomorrow but reach out for help now.
gjm
gjm
To answer your question your dealing with a untreated addiction what it is.

What your saying here is the same dilemma most of us been there but make a decision to do something about it.

Acceptance and wiliness is key but without action on your part those two things don't matter much.
deleted_user
deleted_user
The thought pattern you describe is what I go through everyday. With me I was able to kick "drugs" even though alchol is a drug but the thoughts come in my head sometimes like this too. You need to seek someone to talk to about your feelings. THe idea of being a normal person will eat you alive if you let it. I have thought for years why am i not like the person who does life with no worries. I really think that if you find someone like a group it may help. I know that some days are a struggle and hugs to you . we are all here for you and understand.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Where you are is where I was when I decided that enough was enough. Then I sought out the help, and found it. It was the most difficult decision that I ever made in my life, yet the answer was simple. If I did not stop drinking, I was going to die. Then the decision made sense. AA will help, but if you have access, you may need medical help to stop if you are a heavy drinker.

Thank you for sharing.
m8bear
m8bear
I sat in denial about what my issue really was for a long time. I blamed it on external circumstances and 'hid' behind them all.

The ironic thing, in your post you say about 'I just thought I'd use a little to have a little comfort before I start my day' and that has me thinking you maybe do not quite yet understand addiction as you say about using a 'little'.

Why do I say this? Well, when I first got help, I thought it was drink 6 that got me drunk, I didn't realise my physical allergy started as soon as I took the first mouthful. It took me to learn about my disease in order to understand why I kept getting drunk (sound familar?).

Whatever your addiction is, there is help available when you want it. For me, my way was AA and I am so glad for walking to those rooms and sitting my bottom on a seat and listening to what was going on.