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bad day, bad week, bad month

Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
In my 3 plus years of sobriety, I have never craved a drink or a drug more then I do right now!

First, I had to send my little girl to doggy heaven, was having a rough time dealing with it and then I lost my cell phone on top of that. Was down to our last $65 dollars in out checking account and had to decide weather to pay car insurance or purchase a refil on a prescription med I am taking and I decided to pay the car insurance....wife just started a new job and has to travel quite a distance to work so figured that's more important.

My wife says she hates the month of October. We lost 2 dogs, her mom past away, and she had surgery. Let's see, can't think what else but that's enough anyway.

I need a drink!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Bob, that wouldn't solve a damn thing. You'd be spending money you don't have on booze and drugs and end up worse in the hole than you already are.

Agreed, sometimes shitty things happen. It's not enough to pick up a drink. You might not think so, but there are people way worse off than you are and taking it in stride knowing all is well. You can't have faith just when times are good and everything is going your way. Gotta have it when times are tough.

How are things going with meetings, sponsor, step work, fellowship? Gotta keep busy with this stuff, Bob. It's a lifetime deal we live one day at a time. Keep it in the day.

Hugs to you, my friend.
okiyoe1
okiyoe1
Hi!! Bob I've had to make many decisions as You have over the years and personally I think its wonderful To make choice follow through and not get caught up in the fear and let decisions get made for You!!
A drink I've found causes all bets to be called off .
Meeting 's , step work and long talks with close friends have helped me to see many things . But if all were just boring I would not see the need to look at .
Billy
deleted_user
deleted_user
Congratulations, Bob, and welcome to the major leagues of recovery.
gjm
gjm
Might want to keep this in mind Bob, its a hell of a lot easier to stay sober then try to get sober again. Life happens might want to go back to the basics of how ya got the 3 years.

A long timer that I knew that just passed always used to say it I take that 1st drink I might as well throw every possession I have out the window because surely it will be gone in a short time.

Use the tools you where taught.
stickywick
stickywick
No you don't need a drink. That would send a bad month right to he'll. You know that! Go talk to your sponsor! Call an AA member or two, or three. Share at a meeting. But don't drink.
billwfriend
billwfriend
Bob I know how hard it is to put a doggie down...I had to do that for my first time by myself a while back...my parents always did it before with the family pets...it really hurts man I know and I am here to say it gets to the heart because we are really attached to our pets....

Drinking is not the answer...no way...might seem it could help however look to the other side of that tunnel your looking into thinking of a drink...there is light there...stay sober and reach the light...
billwfriend
billwfriend
hey you were asking how you could convince wife you she would not come home to see you drunk again....well would taking a drink help that happen or hurt your chance staying married?

think to the light in the tunnel bob it is sobriety all the way to the other side of tunnel
CoogeeMum
CoogeeMum
Not always easy this life Bob, and a drink won't make it better. I use to hate certain months as they represented loss, but they also represented life and those who I missed the most were because they were are part of mine, and that's worth remembering. You don't need a drink mate, you need to stay connected with people and reaching out here's a good start :)
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
I know, based on experience, taking a drink or a drug would just make things alot worse so I won't do that. I just needed to vent. Sometimes the negative gets overwelming but it's part of life and just have to learn to live with it, take the good with the bad.

Thanks for all your wisdom and support!
deleted_user
deleted_user
True enough that you don't need a drink. That's the "old you" trying to re-assert itself, but I believe that you are a different person today than you were 3 years ago.

As Coogee and others have said - stay connected. And I sympathize with you over your dog. I had to do the same thing earlier in the year. It's hard, but I'm sure you gave her a good life, and she gave you many good memories. It's okay to be sad about it for awhile.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Vent away...

All this other stuff will pass.

I am so sorry about your loss. I still mourn a dog I had to put down 10 years ago-he was my soulmate in fur form.

Grieve, it is hard but it is life.
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
I'll have to save these and read them again when I have a bad day.

Anyway, I found my cell phone! It was in the washing machine! For some reason, water and cell phones don't mix but I have another cheap one on the way. Thanks for listening.. TC
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