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Hey all,
I'm an AA member, and have been sober for 7 months. I struggle so bad with many parts of AA including the steps. I've done them all to the best of my ability. I get very frustrated with the entire program and the big book. Frankly, I have not had the experience that the book describes from the steps or that my friends in AA talk about. I've always been skeptical of the program and i was told to do the steps because I had no other option, so I did, And still...hear I am...frustrated, confused, sober and extremely agitated and most of all scared. If I talk of trying a different program, I'm told I'm delusional. basically AA makes me more scared then I was when I came in. When I went to rehab 5 years ago, I was soooo hopeful that I could live a sober life, and any bit of that hope has been smashed because I always have people telling me I am doing something wrong in AA. Help me.
I'm an AA member, and have been sober for 7 months. I struggle so bad with many parts of AA including the steps. I've done them all to the best of my ability. I get very frustrated with the entire program and the big book. Frankly, I have not had the experience that the book describes from the steps or that my friends in AA talk about. I've always been skeptical of the program and i was told to do the steps because I had no other option, so I did, And still...hear I am...frustrated, confused, sober and extremely agitated and most of all scared. If I talk of trying a different program, I'm told I'm delusional. basically AA makes me more scared then I was when I came in. When I went to rehab 5 years ago, I was soooo hopeful that I could live a sober life, and any bit of that hope has been smashed because I always have people telling me I am doing something wrong in AA. Help me.
Just seems to me, in my experience, that if you're still fighting, the conflict is between you and you. Did you admit complete defeat in Step 1? Sure doesn't sound like it.
Seems the whole story hasn't been told here. Whatever your opinion of AA is, please find some program that will work for you. Best wishes.
Also AA isnt the only recovery path out there. There are many. If AA doesnt work for you, or you arent working AA, then try something else.
What exactly are you being told you are doing wrong?
Dan
I had shared this with someone and this person said "to take what I need and leave the rest." And if you don't like what someone says, that is okay.
I also read a book called by Charlotte Kasl which explained the positive and negatives of the 12 Step program and different programs. It helped me to realize that no program is perfect.
But in my case, AA. seems to work because I am still sober.
Congratulations on 7 months and I wish you many many more!