Haha. Thanks for noticing, Glad. :)

I am sure you can imagine how badly I wanted to jump in on the action. Lol. I felt better and better each day I stayed out of it. It's better I leave the fighting to those who can handle it better than I.

THANK GOD FOR FEAR.........

Hi Tread, good to see you, I hope that you are Happy Joyous and Free, RECOVERED from that Hopeless State of Mind and Body. God gave us a bucketful of EMOTIONS and I would not be without any of them, Fear, what power that has, fear protects me sometimes from myself and fear will not allow me to go swim with the large Sharks and large salt water Crocodiles we have here or run unto the road playing chicken with cars or trucks.

I will not bore you with going through all my wonderful God given EMOTIONS, but I can tell you that without ANGER I would not have gotten myself to AA and to RECOVERY, Wow ANGER what a motivator that emotion is, thank god I was so angry at where my life was heading that I made a decision to come to AA.

I met a man in AA that said ne no longer got angry, but when I spilt my cup of tea on the arm of his shirt, thank God he instantly reassured me he was not robotic by getting his anger back real quick, no, we are not ROBOTS, why do you think God in his wisdom gave us all our EMOTIONS, but like all emotions we have to keep check on them, its not how I feel or think, but what I do about the feeling, I am responsible for the action I am not responsible for feeling or thoughts just what I do with them.

So Jim shall we call you Wiley Banner?

I agree with you DT I used to be told that you mustn't get angry and I would be given the 'Just for Today' card and I continued to do what I had always done and more anger was added to stoke the fire.

The Big Book tells us that the grouch (sulking and miserable, sometimes for weeks) and the brainstorm (episodes of rage, damage to property etc) that is very different from not being angry.
Clearly it recognises that anger will arise and has to be dealt with because the grouch and the brainstorm are unhealthy and unhelpful ways in which to deal with anger.

What I have learned in recovery is to be able to handle my anger in an appropriate way - far more healthy than not allowing ourselves to be angry because in doing and believing that, we just swallow the anger we have without realising we are doing it. This makes us ill physically, mentally and spiritually, then we would be really in trouble!

i've learned threw in recovery i have a right to emotions as i did b4..anger is one of them..though ive been angry a lot less doesnt mean i fly off now and then but the difference now opposed to then is im not too big to put principles b4 my personality and appologize if needed...something i never would have done even if i was wrong.

ditto Nicky...100% anger turned inward is often expressed as depression...at least that was true for me. Very unhealthy to attempt to supress anger.

I'm with you Dontread....anger is a human emotion and no one said we were supposed to turn into robots in order to stay sober. Manage your anger and don't let resentment rent space in your head.

And it's okay to be right about something and to stand up for yourself. Just do it nicely, without personal insults of any kind.

My 2 cents for tonight!

well put Jack.

Yeah I reckon anger is natural, but it's how we handle it outwardly as well as inside that matters. I hate when I overreact when I'm angry.

A couple of weeks ago, I kinda exploded a bit on one of my field techs on the phone and my boss said something about it. He was right, it is ridiculous for me to get loud & nasty in a room full of people and I don't want to react that way but most of the time, I don't realize that I'm freaking out!

I made 2 little signs that read "shhhhh.....simmer down Shelly" and gave one to each of my cube mates! lol! Of course they made me SWEAR that I wouldn't get mad when they raised it. haha!

But seriously, it has helped as a diversion. Last week, I started to get angry & loud and remembered that they had the signs and it brought my anger to my attention and I took a deep breath and calmed down. Hey! Whatever works right? :)

anger is natural and healthy, it's how it's handled is the key. From my classes I also learned that much anger is brought on ourselves from expectations of others. Some anger is justified as to trauma that may have happened to you as a result of someone's cruelty - that's when forgiveness steps in - which is a very hard thing to be - anger only lingers if you allow it to linger - people say that they can't control their anger, but I am an expample of yes you can. Anger used to be my oxygen - i was also a black out rager - and if i was drinking my anger was over the top - i look back and after classes and counseling i still don't know why i was that angry i didn't have it all that bad, it's just minor things led up to major things and because there was a time i didn't understand anger and how to process it, it almost destroyed my life more than anything else.

The teacher once told me - the one who angers us is the one who controls us - that has stuck in my head like you can't imagine - and since I am a control freak by nature - i was like - OH HECK NO - i will NOT be controlled by someone - thru anger or other means -

Anger happens, I normally put it prayer - i don't have the time or energy to waste on it any more.

Great post by the way!

Peace!

Confucius says that to be wronged is nothing unless you continue to remember it. He apparently was not an alcoholic. ;o) sara

SOMETIMES I actually like feeling anger it gives me a rush.I am known to alot in my crowd as a bitch but to me thats not a bad thing.I know what I believe and I stick to my guns so if that makes me a bitch so be it.

I hope I dont loose friends here because I can admit IM a bitch. Im a good bitch,a good witch and a make a really good sandwich.lol

we got wendy the good witch so why not sherry the good bitch? LOL

see I told you that you were a good man.lol