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Letting go...

Taradactyl
Taradactyl
...of the blame
...of the "reasons" to drink
...of the drink as the answer
...of the need to escape and numb everything
...of the things we cannot change

How and when did you finally "let go"?
Was it gradual?
What was the effort involved?

I feel so close. It's not just about the booze. It's a surrender that is "I can't do this anymore." It's about not fighting reality any longer. It's about wanting to live and being able to embrace life. It's about not being afraid anymore of the unknowns. It's about allowing vulnerability. It's about accepting humility.

How?

Enough pain and desperation will do it. What else? How did you come to the "decision" to surrender?
bootoo
bootoo
maybe I'm a simpleton, but I'd say pray for the courage/strength to give up your self will...I think the Serenity Prayer is a good start.

The way I started seeing this change in myself was subtle and gradual, but nonetheless profound. I found myself reacting to situations with acceptance - situations that previously would have had me stewing with resentment. Just a calm sense of peacefulness - so my Mom told my brother that I'm an alcoholic even though I explicity told her that I'd handle this on my own and on my own time - my reaction, to my surprise...'maybe he needed to hear it' - NOT how I'd normally react by a longshot...wierd, but cool. Keep working at it, it will come.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I so struggled with this and agree faking it is not the way to go. When my sponsor suggested the 3rd step in a week's time, I had to tell her I didn't think i was ready. Re-working step 1 and 2, rather studying, even researching my state of mind began to change. At one point without me realizing when or how... I HAD handed it over. I use the foreclosure of my house as an example. In all honesty I thought "what will be, will be" and actually trusted that it would turn out as it was suppose to. Days gone by a situation like this would send me soaring into fear and dread, expecting the worst. Instead I felt a calm knowing it wasn't in MY hands.

Hope that makes some sense. I guess my advice is to work the steps and don't move forward until YOU understand the step and believe you are ready to move on.