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Anger

Taradactyl
Taradactyl
My thoughts...

Don't light it. Don't fuel it.

It takes a strong and centered person to back down in the face of conflict.

I have anger management issues. Once kicked in someone's TV barefoot and then threw it out his 3rd story window. I don't even remember what he said to piss me off. What did I get out of it? A big gash on my foot and yet another drunk to calm me down.

One of the most important things I am doing to maintain my sobriety is NOT allowing myself to be driven by anger. I won't entertain a combative situation if I can help it. I have found power in maintaining my composure. Serenity. I pray for it every day. I am a work in progress.

"If we were to live, we had to be free of anger. The grouch and the brainstorm were not for us. They may be the dubious luxury of normal men, but for alcoholics these things are poison." -- BB p 65
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think that anger is a normal part of the spectrum of human emotions - and an indicator that our physical or emotional safety is at risk, or at risk for others. At the start of the 4th Step on the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions it talks about Human Instincts, and says that everyone in the Human Race might express things like (paraphrasing) love, hate, anger, the need for sex, status, financial security. it goes on. But in the case of the Alcoholic these Instincts are overblown to the extent that rather than being an instinct which is beneficial to our survival, these overblown instincts are a burden and lessen our viability as human beings. (I love that part of AA literature the most).

So, like others have said, rather than the unrealistic aim of completely obliterating anger, which is impossible so will be a self esteem killer, it's about getting it into a valuable and reasonable range. The Steps and any other work (like therapy for me) can really help get anger "right size". At 11 years sober, I'm still but a Babe in the Woods on this, but at least I'm workin' on it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yeah, I'm angry. I've been staying away from facebook for the last couple of weeks and I decided to check in there tonight. Two of my FB friends that I knew in high school, took pictures of guns in their mouth, up to the head, etc.. The pictures had been posted for about 4 hours. I reported them to FB and I don't know if they are dead.
deleted_user
deleted_user
HUGS to you my dear friend -

i never realized what an angry life i led until I went to anger management classes then came spirituality counseling and now of course I get angry but i WON'T be controlled by it - too much energy wasted if you ask me AND I REFUSE to allow a person to keep me angry - i will never forget some powerful words from AM classes - the one who angers us is the one who controls us - that statement hit me like a ton of bricks!

Peace