I'm not angry like I used to be. I don't know of an instant solution other than trying to stuff it. My experience with stuffing it wasn't all that good though.

For a more solid solution, I had to learn and to feel a good measure of humility, grace and forgiveness. That was the natural result of the 12 steps for me. I didn't even know what I was doing getting started and I didn't have too. I just knew I didn't want to drink anymore and I was willing to do anything it took.

What I got in return was much more than just losing the desire to drink. I'm learning a way to live that works.

I can relate to what you're saying Anna...I'm angry a lot as well...and sometimes I do not know how to process it...than the anger turns to hurt and than the hurt for me turns to hatrerd of the situation...I hate getting angry...I don't know how to deal with it...

Oodles of it. I think it's somewhat suppressed right now because of the anti-anxiety meds I'm on. Historically, I would have been considered a hot head, quick and ready to fight. Over the years I've workded managing my anger, somewhat successfully. Now it takes a lot more to make me angry, but when I do get to the boiling point - the very fist thing I think of is - I need a drink.

Anger is a trigger, a nasty one because my thinking becomes distorted. And like when drinking I'll do or say things I wouldn't normally do.

Why the anger - who knows.

You know it be a trigger - you've done so well - you'll need to figure out how to handle it when it happens without turning to a drink.

Maybe you should make anger management a part of your program.

Here's one more hint....

If we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are half way through. We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness. We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace. No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others. That feeling of uselessness and self-pity will disappear. We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows. Self-seeking will slip away. Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will change. Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us. We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us. We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves.

Are these extravagant promises? We think not. They are being fulfilled among us sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly. They will always materialize if we work for them.

Page 83-84 Alcoholics Anonymous~

Thank you Drafter et all. I just can't seem to get a grip on things today. I don't even know if this real or imagined.

anger can be a very ugly thing and it takes so much energy out of you.I thought I was doing pretty good with mine. until I went on another site on here and some bitch got me all pumped up.I cant believe I let her get me so pissed off.you know some of you might think I belong on another site because im stuggling with the drugs right now and not so much the alcohol but, I have tryed to go on other sites and I always find myself back on the alcohol one.I can just relate to you guys way more than I can with the people on the other sites.

I try to turn the other cheek, but often fail .. O can't recall a somgle arguement that I didnt regret.

Last week in ended up in a blazing row with someone here... Guess what ? ... Yep, I drank ( only saving grace was it was carried out in private messages)

If I got angry at someone, then they'd leave me alone and I wouldn't have to admit any weaknesses. How dare someone question me. Of course I should retaliate. Every time I got mad I'd tell myself, yeah I feel like a drink now. Bzzz. What the mind expects mate, it's going to find for sure. This is the 3rd post of yours on page one here that mentions you feel like drinking. Now's the time to take action to avoid that first drink.

There was a few things that did help me early on that didn't involve kicking and throwing everything in site. For me anger hid fear, and there was a lot of fear beneath my emotions. Step 4 helped me look at why I was such an angry little chicky babe, and from there I learned how better to deal with my emotions.

There's a few things you can do to dissipate that anger almost immediately. Breathe, meditate and pray, go have a bubble bath, or take a walk. In your case, I'd encourage you to attend a meeting, call your sponsor and talk it through. Read the BB and journalling how I felt helped too. But truthfully, setting to work on the steps was the biggest help of all. I thought I would've needed anger management, but after that step 4, I just knew I was going to be okay.

Anna, I had a huge fear of not being able to cope without alcohol. But I couldn't cope with it. Do whatever it takes.

When I first got into recovery, people would comment about how angry I was and I thought they were nuts, I didn't feel angry at all. What I subsequently learned was that it is possible to BE angry without FEELING it.

I am not an angry person these days and that came about through working the steps and a LOT of therapy. I can still get angry over things but I am not carrying around my own personal reservoir of anger any more.

Anger is a symptom of a wider problem, it can make us feel powerful and we can also feel that having it prevents people from coming too close and probably hurting us.

It is not so much anger itself that causes us to drink, but it's the way in which it manifests in our lives through bad, unkind or unloving behaviour that causes problems.

Ultimately, we drink because of one thing only - that is by not being in fit spiritual condition.

I used to be angry all of the time and still am at times but it's gotten so much better when I practice acceptance I have learned in AA.

I get angry when I feel violated. I want to protect myself and want to make it stop. Not good.

We do have "to let things go".

Ask yourself, how important is it?

Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy...

Im angry because noone truly understands me. Im angry becuase no one even really hears me. Im angry when i have to do pick up after everybody, im angry when they ask me stupid questions and act like they ant think for themselves. im angry when things dont go my way.im angry when they do. im angry when im not in control, im angry becuase i never was in control. im angry beecaus i cant do what i want when i want, im angry becuase i always have to be the one to get things done. im angry becuase no one seems to deem the things i feel as important as what i see, important! im angry becuase i feel like God is picking on me especially lately! im angry because no one notices all the shit i do for them. im angry because i have to buy my own valentines presents, birthday presents and anniversay gifts. im angry because my husband uses, yet I AM apparently the one "who needs help" when hes a full-blown addict. im angry because my teen makes life more difficult on purpose and doesnt even care. im angry becuase i dont like that i was, im angry becuase i dont like what ive become.im angry beause i am always the one to apologize. im angry beause even when im right, somehow im still wrong. im angry becuase i never get a moments peace for myself..ever! im angry beause im always interrupted. im angry with the lack of consideration, appreciation or respect i get-or dont rather. im angry because people are self serving and horrible to each other. And, upon reasons, and reasons i can go on and on and on, but mostly, im angry because im angry.

sorry for the typos, it happens in continuous thought

Now I try to live in today, in the now, so to speak.I can only work on me. So with that in mind, I ask myself:

"what can I do about yesterday?"Answer-learn
"what can I do about today?" Answer-grow
"what can I do about tomorrow?" Answer-hope

I desire for you to work thru this, I empathize and hear you louder then you can know....

i had a lot of anger at one point..in early ,early recovery i learned this is one emotion was one of my ''king triggers''..i took anger management and it helped a little but learning most of my explosions came from resentments and held in emotion..i learned when i started getting the least agitated i would not hold it in..when something or someone displeased me i let them know how whatever happened or was said made me feel and why i didn't appreciate it...all this is done calmly ..civilly...u know its hard for people to argue with you when you re not arguing..this has worked 4 me.....every now and again though i'll get that head spinning anger being around someone really crappy and i redirect and laugh at how ugly i can get when im angry litterally..lol.that also helps.

wow im angry coz my fella didnt get the milk or do the washin up, im angry with myself for not doing more productive things in the day, im angry with my parents for being so self obsessed and im angry with life, im angry i have to get a job and prob work till im 70 lol i get angry about alot! and i bare grudges! im like you they get me down loads, but the thing thats gettin me through is belief that things will change - i hope anyway!