My husband is saying the same thing. No one's going to notice. I guess I have to agree that I need to get over myself. Just because I obsess over having a drink every 10 minutes, doesn't mean anyone else gives a $h!t. =)

I am really looking forward to the day I don't think about having a drink.

Hey Beth, I'm on day 44 and have had the same thing running through my head. I made it to a bar with about 20 friends last weekend and was surprised it was not a big issue but I did leave a little early. I think this was easier than being with just a few friends,

I have a true test coming up soon, A week at a all inclusive resort with my wife and friends. I do not want stop being with my friends or doing the things I enjoy. I think we have to reset our way of thinking. We can have fun and be fun without alcohol. My wife does not drink but has always gone to the same places with the same folks as I do and it has never been an issue for her.

I hope you stay strong and succeed!

Thank you BigEd! Some of my best/worst vacations were at all inclusives. I'm going to one in the Fall. I keep telling myself that sobriety means I won't need photos to remember everything. You can do it!

Dear Just,
Sure I do. When in a bar or at a party and asked why I am not drinking I just say that I found out I am allergic to alcohol which is true. People born with the alcoholic gene turned on are really having a chemical reaction to booze, we just do not break down alcohol like normal people do.
I suggest you find some hobbies that are not alcohol friendly. Anything that involve strenuous exercise really helps take the tension off, like a brisk walk nightly. something you and the hubby can do together. My best to you, Eric

Thanks for the suggestions Eric!

I've started exercising more but I really need to find more hobbies. Being a stay at home mom gives me HOURS to obsess over drinking. I think I need to start volunteering or working on some home improvements.

Hello Justbeth and everyone else, I have
been a member on this board for about two years. This is my first public post. First congratulations" just "on the first big step of making the realization that drinking is a problem. I played mind games with " mostly myself" that I was not an addict. I just celebrated 6 months sobriety from alcohol . 10 days no adderall an addictive ADHD drug. Wew.... Did I really just write that ? Guess I did, man it is hard, but I truly believe it is and will be worth it!

I have a great sense of humor, I just always thought I was funnier with a few drinks. "Not so". One reason I have not posted is sometimes the conversation gets heated over AA versus other methods of sobriety When that happens I get confused and anxious . My sponser told me if I like the site and it is helpful , speak out. I do like the site and it is helpful! Thank you for listening! P.S. I use the phrase ETOH interferes with my medication , works pretty good!

Congrats on your accomplishments! I can't imagine 6 months of sobriety at this point. 10 days hasn't been fun or easy.

I've noticed the heated conversations about methods too. I understand that people are passionate about what works for them. We are all here taking it one day at a time. =)