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5 Sober Days

bella51
bella51
I have made it thrugh 5 days and I feel great!!
Good week....Had to have dinner with my boss from out of town (he's likes his wine" and had a lovely time drinking tea...I am so much more interesting when I DONT drink:-) No wrries the next day...Did i say anything I should not have?? No stress...will I drink too much (of course I will)...will I be Ok to drive?? Probally not but I will anyhow
Its like god lifted a dark blanket off my head...I am much more releaxed, I sleep all night and less stressed out. It takes alot of work to be an alcoholic...where to get my bottle, will I have enough, rush rush rush thru everything just so I could start drinking....Don't talk to anyone...intrupts my drinking time....The guilt the next day...what did I not do I was supposed to, what have I forgetten I said to my grown sons,
do I have any food in the house, did I take a shower, do I need more booze...of course I do... not don't want to be short.....go get more and start all over again, and again and again.. The worst was looking in the mirror " Who is that" Oh yea" thats me!
Matted hair, still in pj's, red, bloated face...Thinking I am killing my self and will die from this..
The guilt and fear has subsided
Still one day at a time...But I never want to go there again
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi bella51, You are SUPERGIRL !! I remember when I quit in '83; I'd count the days of continuous sobriety then say, "Everyone that I knew who drank on the day I quit - still does!" Its a very empowering thing to take control of your life and to force positive changes.I had gone through "treatment" in 1979. It didn't work, but it taught me alot about addictions, and their control over a person. They used to ask, "Do you have the bottle or, does the bottle have you?" I URGE you to stay busy and active. Boredom and tedium are fertile ground for depression and temptation. You are STILL under threat of this addiction. It will try to return with a vengeance when you are most vulnerable! Once you've overcome these major tests to come, you can really begin to call yourself a "former drinker". Defend this progress you've made as if your very life depended on it because, literally, it does. My father drank starting in his teens. Though achieving a PhD, his drinking escalated to a gallon of wine and a quart of vodka per day! His liver quit at 51. Still drinking, he died at 62. We want you around alot longer!!
billwfriend
billwfriend
congrats and keep coming back this is how it works...one day at a time keep the plug in the jug....hugs to ya too
stickywick
stickywick
YAY for you!
Yes can totally relate. Not only are we more interesting when we don't drink, we are more INTERESTED. At least that's what I've found! I'm actually interested in what friends and family are saying. Go figure.
Good luck and what is your plan? What is your program to stay sober?
Community LeaderExJerseyGirl2
ExJerseyGirl2
Boy did I relate to your post.

I remember all that and more -- I'll just have a little sip, just a sip and that will be enough. Well maybe another one. It's been three minutes since my last sip, just a bit more. Oh hell, what's the big deal with having a real drink. I'll just drink enough to "fall asleep" for a bit then get up and take care of the house, etc.

Great job on 5 days -- a real accomplishment! Keep it going!
lr33
lr33
Way to go Bella. As I was reading your post, I thought - I could have written this! I'm on day 8 - hopefully my last. Also am feeling strong, positive and comitted. Also have been in 2 tempting situations and passed with flying colors. Thursday nite went to a friends for dinner - all 3 other folks drinking wine (my alcohol of choice), I had water. Friday night went with friends to a Moose club (which all these animal (elk, eagle, moose, etc) are just drinking clubs - and had abolutely no desire for anything other than water with lemon. I've been sleeping great (in fact I've been up since 3:30 this morning), enjoying my days (walking, reading, bible study, talking with friends). This site is a wonderful help; there is such wisdom here. I like the comments about us newbies finding a plan. I'm working on one, but so far, one day at a time, and the memory of where I don't want to be is working. Keep posting your success; it's inspiring. Peace and All Good to you & all.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Great job. Isn't it interesting how hard we have to work to maintain an alcoholic lifestyle? Now you have time to plan for better things in your life :)
seaQ
seaQ
Great job Bella and Ir, I'm with ya, it's only been over a week for me, and I'm feeling confident and really good. I handled a dinner party last night just fine, and plan to do the same for today's super bowl party. I will not crack a beer no matter what! Not long ago I thought Who can watch football without beer?! Today I will stay strong.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi bella51. I too have 5 days so far. My last drink was at 10pm on January 31, so at 10pm tonight, I have 6 days. I have eaten more food the past 5 days (mostly ben and jerry's chunky monkey ice cream). I wish you strength, courage, and patience with each day. Since we are on the same start date, I decided to join your post with you rather than start another one all by myself. Thanks for being here. Maybe I can check in with you tomorrow and we can both be over "day 6"
deleted_user
deleted_user
Isn't life grand when we don't drink. Remember this HALT these are triggers to drinking.Hungry Anger Lonely Tired. When you crave a drink, suck on some candy or chocolate. Alcohol is pure sugar and eating candy will help allieviate some of the cravings. Good Luck I hope you are not doing this alone.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Remember too, its just one day at a time/ We can't look at the past, its as good as its gonna get and we shouldn't look towards the Future because it will take care of itself. When you have one foot in the past, one in the future you are pissing all over today.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Bella 51
Its a good thing that you realize you have a problem. Congratulations on your revelation. What we need to realize is that you have a disease. Left untreated you are likely to drink again. Thats just what alcoholics do. I suggest that you try what has worked for so many of us here on D/S. That would be to attend some meetings of Alcoholics Anonymous.This disease is so much more than just not drinking. Its the way we think and the way we live. By not drinking you are treating the symptom and not the disease. We find that this disease is too much for us and we need to find a solution. I found my solution in the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous.There you will meet women just like you and they will share you how they did it.The way this program of AA works is by one alcoholic helping another alcoholic. Again congratulations on admitting to yourself that you are alcoholic. Your journey into a life of sobriety has just begun. My prayers are with you. Greg
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