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Ashley8888
Ashley8888
I havent been on in awhile and need some advice...

I was sober for a little over a year, and relapsed, not I have about 4 months and I am struggling. I am not liking being sober, I am going through the motions of life but not happy...

I a m in AA but that just seems to be the same thing over an over....I am isloating again...I tried to call a couple today as it was a really bad day, and i got a "ill call you back" and I dont want to bother my sponsor as she is sick....

I hate my job, life is like ground hogs day....it seems...work, school, meeting, repeat...and now no school....so work, sleep, meetings, repeat....ugh

I'm just frusterated and not sure what I should do...any suggestions?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Ashley is it soooooooo important for you NOT to isolate. Good for you for coming back and hanging in there. If you want it you can get it...humm I feel a song coming on....take the steps and enjoy your life! Actively enjoy it! When you wake up in the morning do you have a hangover? Are you sick with regret and can't remember half of what you did? If your not then CELEBRATE with a smile, pat on the back, brag on DS! I'm sure you are exercising, try a new activity, hobby or sport. Force yourself to mix it up, make a new friend...do a good deed. call your mom :D Just suggestions...embrace your life. Enjoy the full moon (next "big" full moon 2029)..I'd give you a big hug if I were there but this virtual one will have to do
deleted_user
deleted_user
Ashley is it soooooooo important for you NOT to isolate. Good for you for coming back and hanging in there. If you want it you can get it...humm I feel a song coming on....take the steps and enjoy your life! Actively enjoy it! When you wake up in the morning do you have a hangover? Are you sick with regret and can't remember half of what you did? If your not then CELEBRATE with a smile, pat on the back, brag on DS! I'm sure you are exercising, try a new activity, hobby or sport. Force yourself to mix it up, make a new friend...do a good deed. call your mom :D Just suggestions...embrace your life. Enjoy the full moon (next "big" full moon 2029)..I'd give you a big hug if I were there but this virtual one will have to do
deleted_user
deleted_user
Ashley is it soooooooo important for you NOT to isolate. Good for you for coming back and hanging in there. If you want it you can get it...humm I feel a song coming on....take the steps and enjoy your life! Actively enjoy it! When you wake up in the morning do you have a hangover? Are you sick with regret and can't remember half of what you did? If your not then CELEBRATE with a smile, pat on the back, brag on DS! I'm sure you are exercising, try a new activity, hobby or sport. Force yourself to mix it up, make a new friend...do a good deed. call your mom :D Just suggestions...embrace your life. Enjoy the full moon (next "big" full moon 2029)..I'd give you a big hug if I were there but this virtual one will have to do
deleted_user
deleted_user
Ashley is it soooooooo important for you NOT to isolate. Good for you for coming back and hanging in there. If you want it you can get it...humm I feel a song coming on....take the steps and enjoy your life! Actively enjoy it! When you wake up in the morning do you have a hangover? Are you sick with regret and can't remember half of what you did? If your not then CELEBRATE with a smile, pat on the back, brag on DS! I'm sure you are exercising, try a new activity, hobby or sport. Force yourself to mix it up, make a new friend...do a good deed. call your mom :D Just suggestions...embrace your life. Enjoy the full moon (next "big" full moon 2029)..I'd give you a big hug if I were there but this virtual one will have to do
deleted_user
deleted_user
Ashley is it soooooooo important for you NOT to isolate. Good for you for coming back and hanging in there. If you want it you can get it...humm I feel a song coming on....take the steps and enjoy your life! Actively enjoy it! When you wake up in the morning do you have a hangover? Are you sick with regret and can't remember half of what you did? If your not then CELEBRATE with a smile, pat on the back, brag on DS! I'm sure you are exercising, try a new activity, hobby or sport. Force yourself to mix it up, make a new friend...do a good deed. call your mom :D Just suggestions...embrace your life. Enjoy the full moon (next "big" full moon 2029)..I'd give you a big hug if I were there but this virtual one will have to do
m8bear
m8bear
I get what you are feeling and I felt sobriety was a bit 'boring' initially. I was so used to living in drama that I couldn't get used to the fact that there was none anymore and wondering if that was all there was to life.

I remember having a similar conversation with my old sponsor and I liked what was said back 'we get sober to life live not to live in AA'. For me, that really encompassed what I had been doing. Today, my motto is that the world doesn't come to my settee, I have to go into the world and part of that for me is doing more things.

The ground hogs day you describe would be my idea of one too so.....here is a question, where do you go just to be yourself? To do what you want to do? Not 'Ashley the alcoholic' or 'Ashley the worker/student'..where are you just Ashley? To me, that was the key to my sobriety...finding myself again and doing things for me.

Another suggestion, take a look at the 'Just for Today' card and do one of the things on that....they get us out of self :)
nickyj18022002
nickyj18022002
Sorry to be predictable but where are you with the steps - that was the key for me. Otherwise the spiritual sickness underlying alcoholism was left untreated and I could find no real pleasure in life.
deleted_user
deleted_user
sorry for the re-peats! I was careful NOT to push the send more than once but still...

anyway M8bear brought up an important point that I think needs repeating. So many of us are so used to the chaos that alcohol brought into our lives we are "uncomfortable" with a peaceful NORMAL. I don't care for drama or for those in my life that create/cause it, I love the NEW normal, but I do try to stay active in my sobriety. Again hugs d
PJ54
PJ54
Hello Ashley8888,

The answer to your troubles is in the Steps. Going to meetings, calling other members, calling your sponsor etc. are all things that will help but they do not address the underlying causes of the problem.

If your sponsor is not familiar with the Steps and how they should be done, you may have to find one who is. There is so much for you to gain if you push yourself to do this. However, you need guidance from someone who knows what she is doing. Dont give up just before the miracle is about to happen. Get out of your comfort zone and take the necessary action.

Some people here are really hammering home the message today, with those multiple posts. Maybe there is a higher power at work, trying to tell you something.
Ashley8888
Ashley8888
I like that PJ, maybe my HP really want sme to get the message of what you all are saying, and so put them on repeat, lol I can be a hrd head!!

Thnak you all so much!! I got and went to a meetign today, it was really good...I know I need more of them for awhile, maybe another tonight. i think it is really important for me not to let myself have too much free time...I get bored and start thinking oto much, lol

Thanks for the really good suggestions!! I am getting ready to start a step study group, I know I really do need it now!!!Funny because I was dreading it b/c it is such a long one...but I am really grateful today!!!

I know I have so much to be grateful for, and you all are on that list for sure! Thank you so much!!!