yes, and a couple of car accidents and poor decisions with substances. mostly the psychological/emotional/physical abuse.

My parents are psychologically abusive. They're quick to point out my mistakes and they rarely praise my accomplishments. Anything bad that happened to me was my burden, not theirs. My dad always insinuated that I had a weight problem (I'm 5'9 and 140lbs, size 4/6...still don't know how he thinks I'm fat!) and my mom has made pretty nasty remarks about my birth defect. Having my parents treat me like this definitely erroded any self-esteem I did have. I became really self-conscious about my physical appearance and it has spiralled out of control over the past several years.

I was a pritty hyper child, and ever since i can remember my dad would always yell at me, never spend time with me, or even try to find a common intrest with me. My mom on the other hand was even worse, she would completly just murder me with her words, call me the worst possible things, and even to this day, i dont think i will ever be able to live normally, or have a normal relationship with them.

In a way, it's good to know that neither of us are alone as far as dealing with social anxiety, agoraphobia or psychological abuse.

You have all been through so much...

My story...

I've been bullied, made fun of, teased, ridiculed, shamed throughout the majority of my life and even into adulthood. I still live with the aftermath and psychological and emotional pain that's come with the abuse. Scars that I feel will never fade.

Developed BDD as a result, which ties in with my agoraphobia and social anxiety. I'm unable to function as well as I possibly could. Afraid of society, people, can be emotionally vulnerable/sensitive.

I'm borderline housebound.

I'm afraid of people hurting me, in every way and have had plenty of bad experiences, like being sexually abused by people I trust, or ridiculed/shamed and physically abused as well.

I think this is the most detailed response I've ever written.

I didn't mean to make such a long response. Just feeling a little pessimistic about this situation.

I wish you all the best in life.

I was bullied in school too, but it wasn't nearly as bad as the bullying that is in school nowadays. It has effected me more than I am willing to admit. I can be outgoing and social around people sometimes, but if they try to get close I just push them away. I'm very cautious about people's motives because I've trusted too many people who have betrayed me. I was housebound for a period of several months and it was one of the darkest and most painful times in my life. Getting out of the house and being social is a challenge, but I just try to take it one day at a time.

And don't worry about the length of your posts. Write as much as you want--it can be good therapy.

i also went through this and another bad situation, it took me years to lessen that pain, shame, abuse which just add more to our well being and make it worse

now all of that happened and there i cant change anything, i suffered enough and it does come to my mind all of that from time to time, doesnt hurt like then, it is time for me to be finaly free, in those bad times i rather remember those who helped me when i needed it the most, ones who saved my life, they are ones i cant forget how much they did for me, my abusers are out of my life and what happened did affected me, and as i said i suffered enough, im the way i am, who accepts me accepts me, who doesnt i dont care

take care and dont let past to hold you, to control you, free yourself, all of us suffered enough when it happened, scars stays, things cant be forgoten but they do can have less and less impact on our life

I was bullied psychologically and physically through school. I don't really remember the physical stuff though cause my brain blocked it out as a way to cope. But there were other students and teachers that witnessed it. I was also in some psychologically abusive relationships as well.
This has destroyed my self esteem and confidence to get out and do things and go places.

I was in a couple bad relationship.. and was pressured to have sex. I wouldnt call it rape because I never fought to get but I did say no. I felt like I just had no power. This social anxiety really came out of the blue for me.. I used to be very outgoing and went on lots of dates... and now im almost housebound.. afraid of people.

Yes. I was bullied in school and by my parents and family. I don't have a good self esteem.

I grew up in a dysfunctional household. My parents were emotionally/verbally towards each other but never towards me. It was just an unhappy household where everyone yelled and screamed and there was no love. There was also cheating involved. My parents didn't even seem to like each other. My only examples of a loving relationship was through television and movies. It affected me a lot because I felt they didn't love me enough to change and make different decisions.

My mom also has similar issues to me so I think a lot of my self esteem issues/fear of rejection stemmed from that as well. I remember as a child she would always talk about how ugly she was and how nobody liked her. It would become a self-fulfilling prophecy because people would be turned off from her insecurity.

I ended up with the same issues. The only difference is I have internalized my feelings throughout my life because I didn't want to alienate anyone with my insecurities. Instead, my insecurities lead me to withdraw from people.

I was bullied a bit in 5th grade, but my mom put a stop to it. I had already had self esteem issues by then. I am a hothead so people didn't bother me other than 5th grade.

I forgot to mention I lost so many people in my life which has also caused my issues because I feel like no one really cares and I am destined to lose everyone.

My older sister and my aunt was close to my family when I was young, but they became estranged from my family when my grandmother died when I was young. My aunt is now deceased.

My grandparents, aunts, and uncles are all deceased. So I never got to have that big happy extended family.

I lost all of my friends. Some was my own doing because I withdrew from people, some was out of my control.

I never really felt like I had anyone that stuck with me in life and cared for me.

I feel like I've never really meant anything to anyone. I've felt largely invisible and ignored.

Yes, from a very young age I was talked down to by my siblings and my father and I was bullied up until my first attempt at college. I standing up for myself 3 years ago so now people are little more hesitant to do those things to my face and last year i was in a verbally abusiverelationship but it ended after I started weight training and getting more confident,..but i still feel like I dont matter to anyone.

My husband added to mine-and I din't even realise it was happening until it was too late and he was crossing a line I never thought he would-he pushed me across the kitchen and i landed five feet away in anger then-tried to keep me from leaving by dragging and pushing me back towards the house when I was so paniced all I could think about was getting away-he continues to make me pay for leaving everyday-He even threatened my therapist and the office she works at so the administration forced her to quit treating me-like he didn't plan that-remove my support-take the money -withhold the kids-make her afraid of the community and she will come home and behave like I want her to.---WRONG. it made me more determined to stay away-I just have no where else to live and can't find a house-judge decide he could keep ours and everything in it and I got primary custody of the kids.

It's amazing to see how similar our stories are. We all suffered some type of abuse for years at the hands of people we thought we could trust. Moving on is so hard to do because the emotional and psychological scars will never fade and they'll always remind you of the pain and struggles.

The one thing that has helped me the most was a suggestion that my therapist made. Whenever my family gets into a "bullying" mode, don't get defensive or angry. Just end the conversation right then and there and walk away. How they treat me is not my fault nor should it be my burden to bear. She also recommended putting distance between the people who are verbally abusive. My dad and I still have a rocky relationship but it has improved drastically. Whenever he starts lashing out at me for no reason, I cut off communication with him for a few days or limit our conversations to just pleasantries. He hasn't lashed out at me for months and we actually carpooled to work together for a few months.

My mom is pretty much set in her ways and I just have to accept that she will never change. I've tried to reason with her but I've haven't been that successful. She has such a negative attitude about everything, which has had a big effect on my life and the lives of my siblings. She discourages us from doing what we want, but I've learned to just ignore her or tell her that I intend to do what I want regardless of her opinion. No one (her ex-husband/my dad, my siblings, her mother, her siblings, etc.) is willing to stand up to her terrible attitude and I'm the only one who was brave enough to try and succeed. It's funny because I'm not intimidated by her anymore, but I think she's intimidated by me now. My older siblings even ask me to reason with her when's she's being difficult because she'll actually listen to what I have to say.

As for my friends, I always befriended people who were nice and mean to me, if that makes any sense. Some of my friends didn't treat me with the respect that I deserved and I always had a feeling that they just tolerated me out of pity. I didn't care because I liked having friends. I liked that feeling of belonging and being accepted, even if it was just an illusion. In college, I began to put distance between myself and these "so called" friends because the friendships were just too toxic and draining to deal with. I do miss some of my friends but I don't miss the way that they treated me.

I was picked on too and had bad friends who were emotionally abusive. When I was a teen I went through a lot of family drama, abuse, and a babysitter's friend molested me in 7 or 8th grade. My cousin also tried too. It took a long time until I had a first boyfriend (who was also emotionally abusive) mostly because I was afraid of men. Depression, anxiety, self injury, eating disorder, etc...life sucked and I had suicidal thoughts for years. I have a baby and hope she doesn't inherit my emotional problems. Im going to make sure she doesn't grow up to be emotionally abuse.