Agoraphobia & Social Anxiety Support Group
Agoraphobia is an anxiety disorder, often precipitated by the fear of having a panic attack in a setting from which there is no easy means of escape. As a result, sufferers of agoraphobia may avoid public and/or unfamiliar places. In severe cases, the sufferer may become confined to their home, experiencing difficulty traveling from this "safe place."
My OCD/anxious/now agoraphobic BF has barely lifted a finger for a whole year. No work. No housework. He wakes up, turns his computer on, and just farts around online and/or plays games all day.
I work full time. I commute 2 hours a day. I do all the shopping, laundry and about 99% of the cleaning - his ONE job is the dishes but he often leaves them sitting for days.
WTF am I supposed to do? He's seeking help but it's ridiculously slow going and he keeps telling me to be patient and I am not a patient person. It's been a YEAR of worsening issues.
He's also mad at me b/c I have stopped buying pot for him. He seriously doesn't see any problem with it since it helps him get through the day.
I say "Let me know if there's anything I can do for you" and the answer is basically "Please spend money we don't have for something that's going to make me even more sluggish and unmotivated" then he gets pissy when I can't/won't do the one thing that helps him.
I love him so much. Every time I start thinking of breaking up I flip out. But I'm often on edge being around him b/c of this disaster. I have anxiety and depression myself so it's just a vicious circle.
I need to stay. For now at least. But at what cost to my own health? How do you guys deal with this stuff?
I work full time. I commute 2 hours a day. I do all the shopping, laundry and about 99% of the cleaning - his ONE job is the dishes but he often leaves them sitting for days.
WTF am I supposed to do? He's seeking help but it's ridiculously slow going and he keeps telling me to be patient and I am not a patient person. It's been a YEAR of worsening issues.
He's also mad at me b/c I have stopped buying pot for him. He seriously doesn't see any problem with it since it helps him get through the day.
I say "Let me know if there's anything I can do for you" and the answer is basically "Please spend money we don't have for something that's going to make me even more sluggish and unmotivated" then he gets pissy when I can't/won't do the one thing that helps him.
I love him so much. Every time I start thinking of breaking up I flip out. But I'm often on edge being around him b/c of this disaster. I have anxiety and depression myself so it's just a vicious circle.
I need to stay. For now at least. But at what cost to my own health? How do you guys deal with this stuff?
I know this may be awkward. I am dealing with a very similar situation right now. I am wondering if this could possibly be the same person and if you could help shed some insight. I sent you a request.
Thanks