If it were me, I would respond like I would with anybody else. He might need his birth certificate to find housing or to get welfare....that being the case, I would be more then happy to help him live somewhere else.

I think in time, he will realize what he has done to you and straighten out his life but that will take time.

Keep us posted. In the meantime, you and your family will be in our thoughts and prayers.

God Bless

Thanks Bobinmaine! I will do just that! I hope I didn't toss it... he wasnt a good organizer so...

So, it turns out... the two pictures were of his books (self published author- but doesn't make money) at the local library! Apparently, they bought his books and are displaying them for people to rent out!!!! Which is very exciting and I am sure an opportunity for him to "celebrate" with a pint (that's what he did every time a book got into form!). He responded with where he had his birth cert. AND that the library wants to set up a signing........ and this is where I get weak!!! Now all I think about is not being able to be there (if it's true) AND that he will need a shave, shower and meal before a signing like that so he doesn't stink!!!! :,( Now, I want to cry. My heart strings have been pulled!

If he is NOT in recovery and even if he is... he is not well. You are dealing w/ CRAZY. Alcoholism is craziness to them and to everyone around them.
They do not think rationally.
You have every right to step back from him as long as you need to to get calmed, have peace and to center yourself.

i am having to do this w/ my dry alcoholic mother JUST TODAY> She went into crazy this weekend and I am getting the flack for it. So I am not answering my phone.

I think from now on I am going to record our conversations, keep all her emails and texts bc they are so mean and irrational, and take them to a counselor.

I need to get her attention that I am FINISHED with her shit.

I think I'm in the place that I will only talk to her in the presence of a counselor. She is getting worse bc she is NOT in recovery.

I've had enough. And I don't care any more if I'm a JERK. She is very sick. And I'm tired of that sickness spilling over into my life always. Especially when holidays start to approach.

My husband is sick of it.

Stand your ground. He is responsible for his own self.

Gingergirl1961: Thanks! You are right about the roller coaster! Sometimes I WISH my dad were mean to me like that so it would be easier for me to just PSHH him off... but usually when he is sober he butters me up and makes me feel pity for him... UGH. They really know how to get you!

For sure. IF your mom is yelling and being irrational, saving and counseling is perfect!!!

i agree with ginger....setting healthy boundaries and detaching is not being mean to our dysfunctional family members...it is part of self care and recovery.

Yes John12as- agreed!!!!