I'm gay, and I've been in my current relationship with another man for 39 years. He has simply accepted my incontinence (I have to wear a diaper 24/7) as part of who and what I am. Everybody has "warts". Incontinence is one of mine.

I did not start to wet my self at all untell I was 63 I fell on ice in jan 2013 hurt my back bad that was when the wetting started my wife was upset at 1st.but got over it fast my 2 adult Daughters were ok from the start.Have 3 grand kids too I am the only one in diapers

It took A wile to find A night diaper that would keep my bed dry I am A side sleeped and diap diapers leak.finly I got to cloth pin on worked goodbed is not dry most morninings

Hi Charley69, maybe you can use similar cloth diaper we use. They are generally very absorbent including on the side. I sleep a lot on the side too.

I am charles girl friend I wet too I have since I was 24 Charles is the 1st guy that was not grossed out that I wet the bed and need diapers. he wets too.we got set up after his wife died we did not do any thing other than talk untell his daughters told him it be ok mom would want him too

It's definitely affected dating, as I wet the bed any time I consume a few beers or more. I dated a girl who was a bed wetter as well, but that fell through for other reasons. I'm 29, and kinda wishing there was a dating site catered to this issue. Instead I have the joy of letting potential partners know somewhere along the relation.

So I was total scared about this when dating my to be future wife. Like I was thinking, "She going to freak when she finds out." When I knew it was moving from dating to marriage I struggled with when or if to tell her. (FYI, as practicing Catholics sharing a bed was not an issue during dating time, since we never did.)

So anyway, I decided that I needed to tell her and I choose a place and time to tell her. We had done a good hike at a wildlife refuge, and it was post hike sitting in the truck that I picked to tell her. Apparently I was a little too apologetic since by the time I told her, "I occasionally pee in the bed." she was like, " Oh that is all, I thought you had a terminal illness." LOL. She totally was cool with it. and said, "So, everyone has something that is no big deal but they think it is."

So be honest and if the person is not open move on cause I found out when it comes to true love they will understand.

I was married several yrs then started having accidents wet bed and my pants.She never makes too big of a deal but dose want me diapered to keep her and things dry.The big part is when we travel have to carry a lot of diapers.

I have had better luck personally. The few guys I have told about my issue have been (relatively) understanding. One of them never really wanted to talk or think about it. I would just put on what I had to put on before bed and put on pajama bottoms, etc. Never an issue. if we were going to be intimate, i would take off things and it was never a thing. I think there was a little bit of feeling sorry for me and I think they were a little put off by it but I never lost anyone over it. I have always just been super honest about it.

I've never had anyone....just couldn't cope with my disability and finding a lover.

Hi Lilly. Rejection can be hard. I do not date for the same reason. I do not know how you would feel but about it you could also date someone that wears and uses diapers like i do. I'm not going to even bother with a relationship if they don't half to wear diapers. I'm tired of being judged so i'm looking for someone who has to wear diapers like me. That's my 2 cents. So i hope to find my diapered Princess someday.

Sorry to hear you've had bad experiences, I wouldn't give up dating all together. If someone doesn't accept you for who you are that says more about them than you!

I've had past relationships that didn't work out because of it (even one gf who had really bad nocturia but still didn't accept bedwetting).

Now I'm in a long term relationship and have never felt so accepted! It did take a while to get used to being comfortable with it for me but if it's meant to be it will be :)

Thanks for posting that, Lazy Bones. It is encouraging

Happy to share!

Everyone has pros and cons in their personality traits. Some you choose, some you can't control.

Trust me I wasn't always so optimistic, I was ready to be alone, clinically depressed, had severe (some life threatening) medical issues... But there's hope over time, stay strong :)

I've given up trying to have a relationship

I'm sorry it's been so long since I've posted. I however have good news to share. I never fully gave up. I wanted to but I never did. Thanks to many encouraging members posts since my first initial post. Well it happened. A man I've known 18yrs and I reconnected. He had his own truths for me to accept and I had mine. Things we hadn't shared in the very beginning in other relationships but I chose to this time and that opened us both up. That was 3yrs ago. We are now married and very very happy despite my bed wetting. He makes no big deal ever about it. He's fully accepted this part of me making it easier for me to not get down about it as bad as I once did.. so please don't give up. I almost did and would have lost out falling in love with my soul mate. There is hope for us in the relationships department! Please keep your heads up and never stop keeping your eyes and heart open to love!