Adult Bedwetting Community Group
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Sometimes just as frustrating for me as the accidents I have at night is the annoyance having a small bladder causes me during the day. On a good day (when I don't have much fluid in my system and probably don't drink as much as I should) I average maybe 1.5 to 2 hours between bathroom trips. If I have anything to drink, I can easily find myself going once an hour or more. It gets REALLY annoying every time I sit down and get started on a project to be distracted by the feeling of a full bladder yet again... and I usually make myself hold it for at least a few minutes before I stop what I'm doing and get up and go, because otherwise it seems like I'd never get anything done. If I wait more than a few minutes, though, I find myself squirming and fidgeting so much that I have no choice but to get up and go because I just can't focus on anything else.
Maybe I shouldn't be complaining so much about this... and I do realize that a lot of people have things worse than I do in this department, and I don't mean to disrespect their struggles in any way. It's been a few years since I actually lost control of my bladder during the day, and generally that only happens to me when I'm caught away from a bathroom for a REALLY long time. Still, having to constantly think about my bladder during the day is really annoying. I watch what I drink whenever I go on car trips or have a meeting for fear of needing to dash off in embarrassing fashion... and even at home it's annoying having to get up so often. It's also annoying when I go out with friends in groups and have to make 2 or 3 bathroom trips in the time it takes ANYONE else to have to go. Sometimes I even hold it to the last second on purpose just because I'm embarrassed to admit I have to go again when nobody else has had to go at all yet. Still, I usually have to go a lot more than almost anyone else I know.
I guess I'm speaking here mainly to my fellow bedwetters who have otherwise good "control" during the day (as opposed to those who are incontinent day and night for genuine medical reasons)... how many bedwetters here also have small bladders that cause you annoyance or frustration during the day?
Or are there some here who don't have issues with bladder size (can hold it as long during the day as the next guy) but have trouble staying dry at night for other reasons?
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this!
Maybe I shouldn't be complaining so much about this... and I do realize that a lot of people have things worse than I do in this department, and I don't mean to disrespect their struggles in any way. It's been a few years since I actually lost control of my bladder during the day, and generally that only happens to me when I'm caught away from a bathroom for a REALLY long time. Still, having to constantly think about my bladder during the day is really annoying. I watch what I drink whenever I go on car trips or have a meeting for fear of needing to dash off in embarrassing fashion... and even at home it's annoying having to get up so often. It's also annoying when I go out with friends in groups and have to make 2 or 3 bathroom trips in the time it takes ANYONE else to have to go. Sometimes I even hold it to the last second on purpose just because I'm embarrassed to admit I have to go again when nobody else has had to go at all yet. Still, I usually have to go a lot more than almost anyone else I know.
I guess I'm speaking here mainly to my fellow bedwetters who have otherwise good "control" during the day (as opposed to those who are incontinent day and night for genuine medical reasons)... how many bedwetters here also have small bladders that cause you annoyance or frustration during the day?
Or are there some here who don't have issues with bladder size (can hold it as long during the day as the next guy) but have trouble staying dry at night for other reasons?
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this!
Although I am totally incontinent and must wear protection 24/7, I think I understand. At my last urologist's appointment, the beginning of October, my doctor measured my bladder capacity at 4 ozs., or half a cup. Of necessity, I use my diaper to extend the time between bathroom visits. May I suggest that you consider using an external catheter? You would need to be fitted, which is embarrassing, but a good-fitting external catheter and leg bag combination just might give you the freedom you need. Good luck.
I previously attributed this to drinking too much coffee, beer, etc. I finally realized that this wasn't normal, when I'd be sitting in meetings and everyone had a huge coffee cup next to them.
Out of curiosity, do you take vitamin C? It irritated my bladder badly. I used to take vitamin C supplements, and had some times when I would have to use the bathroom multiple times per hour. The urge would be very strong, but in reality I didn't have to go much. Obviously this was a big problem before bed and overnight. The overly frequent trips to the bathroom did subside somewhat, once I stopped taking the large amount of vitamin C that I was taking. However, that did not solve the problem altogether; I still have the frequency issues, but they're not as severe at certain times.