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Am I meant to accept it as my lot in life?

Hi all


I am 21. Have been a bedwetter all my life. Have prayed a lot and still woken up to more wet sheets. I am wondering if it has reached the point where I just need to accept it and find ways to live with it. This also includes telling a future husband. Very daunting... My hope is slowly fading.

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nicolas2
nicolas2

Like most of life, the answer is not either/or - but both/and!
Yes - certainly accept it and yourself; learn to live with it and yourself.
But also try find a consultant who specialises in enuresis, particularly with young adults. I think Simon Foundation could help locate somebody in your locality.
adfw61
adfw61

It took a long time but then I accepted it, learned to live with it and manage it. Married 22 years, three children and never let it hold me back. As the UK Channel 4 RIO 2016 paralympics ad says: I can do it! Watch it, its very inspirational!
hopefulgirl
hopefulgirl

Thank you @nicolas2 and @adfw61. Easier said than done, but will definitely apply more positivity.
adfw61
adfw61

I felt very isolated for quite a while, years - definitely put a stop to dating! But then I was introduced to a forum/help group, realised I was not alone, sought medical help - no cure but lots of help/support to manage it. I slowly accepted it, learned how to manage it and opened up to a few close female friends, especially if staying overnight. If I thought a relationship might develop I was open and never had a single rebuff - surprise yes but then real understanding. Stay 'hopeful'! The right person is out there for you. I found mine and knew from the outset and that was 22 years ago tomorrow!
ST50
ST50

For me accepting it and getting on with life was the way forward. I can promise you now a decent bloke won't worry that you wet the bed.
wetr
wetr

I have been married 34 years , incontinent for 6 years my wife has been very supportive in my wearing diapers .Consider incontinent wear as no different as some one who has to wear glasses.
ash88
ash88

I have asked that question myself since maybe 25, the answer for me now is an obvious yes have not heard of anyone curing at my age. But if I was 22 again I'd have a all in last go at getting help for it. Don't give up yet your still young. If your unlucky and it does end up a lifelong thing you'll have plenty of time to accept it then. The bad news about acceptance is that it is a difficult process it's self. I'm trying but have a ways to go.
Anisha
Anisha

When was in my teens it was very difficult to accept living with diapers and all the things related to it. But my Mom was and still is very helpful and eventually I accepted it.
nicolas2
nicolas2

I see I replied 3 months ago! but I reckon this is still for many of us the real "Big Question".
We try all the treatments and follow all the pathways but a solution or cure does not happen.
Then "Living With Bedwetting" clicks in: not Victim , but Survivor - indeed Challenger!, so...?!
I always admire kids with challenges: they make it "cool" with colours and style, with stickers and bandanas, with fun and games. with attitude and slang. They banish shame, humiliation, and fear.
Luckily I have spent life as a nomad "on the move" - so have just had to "Wash and Go - Get A Life!"
FRSCR
FRSCR

Hi. I'm 24 male and I'm still a bedwetter, and also have enuresis risoria, that is a rare kind of incontinence, that means when I laugh to hard, my bladder completely empty itself, without I could control it. I start to wear diapers again at night at the age of 17, tired of wake in the middle of the night, all wet... It doesn't happen every night but, I thought it was the best.
Almost the same time I went back in diapers, start dating that girl, and at some point, had to tell her about it. And 7 years later, here we are, happily married since an year ago.
Go for it, embrace yourself.
Best of luck.
mommynuk
mommynuk

I'm glad for you that you found such a loving and understanding wife
DavidT-Bone
DavidT-Bone

I can't imagine how you feel . But I just want to say that I'm sure you'll find someone who can accept your bedwetting. I actually personally think it's kinda cute. If you want to chat just send me a message
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