I think it's a wonderful thing to help a child/ren into a family that can love them in the time of need!

I am an adoptive mother and my opinions are kind of in two diferent directions. First of all, I feel that adoption is the best thing on earth because women such as myself cannot have their own birth children so adoption is the only option for women who want to become mothers...My other outlook on adoption is, I feel so so bad for adopted kids. Alot of them feel unloved and unwanted by their birth parents, they also feel lost and angry, confused and so forth. What gets me the angriest I guess are the birth parents that have babies whether at a young age or not, and give that baby up but then a year or two down the road go and have another baby and keep that one!!! I mean that too me is awful. It will send shock waves through the adopted child one day when your paths cross and they learn that they have a brother or sister just a year or two younger but mom and dad kept that baby...And then there are the parents that lose their kids to foster care because they abuse or neglect these poor kids, but the parents continue to pop kids out, I feel that in this sort of case, the right to conceive and have children should no longer exist. I think there should be a court order that this parent should be legally ordered to become sterile or put on birth control and if this person becomes pregnant when they should be on birth control then order the sterilization. Now I know many will not agree on what I just wrote about sterilization and thats ok, I can respect your opinion, but thats my opinion and I expect to receive the same courtesy.

I am a Specai needs child I was put up for adoption because My birth mother was sick and she could not take care of me. But she did the right thing she gave me up so that I could have a better life I always wonder about my birthmother. where she is what shes doing/ Is she happy for me. is she proud of me I wish I could find my birthmother I have so many unanswered questions. I just what to know why she gave me up.

Tabby, you answered your question in your post. She gave you up because she was sick and wanted a better life for you....

Thats part of it. But I want to know why she did not quite drinking and doing drugs. They were going to try and get her better so I could go back. I never got to go back to her I want to know why and what happended to her why She never came for me. my parents tell me she vanished and that she was found dead in the woods I don't believe them I know shes out there somewhere. I never even got to know her. Its not fair some of my friends that are adopted they know thier birthmothers and they get to see them

One of my friends is pregant now and she has to give her baby up because she has no job or way of supporting it. What I don't understand is if she knew she could not take care of the baby why did she t not think about that bfore getting herself pregnant.