ADHD / ADD Support Group
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We have a family which is spread out all over the country. We rarely see any relatives, years between visits. Last cross-country visit did not go well from my perspective.
My son, exhibited some typical ADHD behaviors. My sister, who was hosting us, kept saying to her husband, "What do you think of this behavior?" She called us after we returned home to tell us that our son has Asberger's Syndrome. She is not qualified to diagnose anything.
We were in the process of having him tested, and it was strictly ADD.
Being used to my son's behaviors, I did not see the need to warn anyone.
We discuss ADD with our son now, whenever it comes up. I have no trouble speaking to teachers, medical professionals, etc. My sister, and the rest of the family of over-achievers I have not mentioned it to them.
Is this just my own problem in telling my family? Does anyone have trouble with advice from relatives? If you have any encouragement, please let me know.
My son, exhibited some typical ADHD behaviors. My sister, who was hosting us, kept saying to her husband, "What do you think of this behavior?" She called us after we returned home to tell us that our son has Asberger's Syndrome. She is not qualified to diagnose anything.
We were in the process of having him tested, and it was strictly ADD.
Being used to my son's behaviors, I did not see the need to warn anyone.
We discuss ADD with our son now, whenever it comes up. I have no trouble speaking to teachers, medical professionals, etc. My sister, and the rest of the family of over-achievers I have not mentioned it to them.
Is this just my own problem in telling my family? Does anyone have trouble with advice from relatives? If you have any encouragement, please let me know.
When you had visited your sister and was in the midst of getting your son tested, i'm sure you felt a little miffed when your sister offered an unsolicited reason for your son's behavior. i know how that feels like, to get advice that was never requested and you are tempted to feel resentful, but fwiw, i don't believe her intentions were bad, though i agree that it was not the best idea for her to offer her opinion. do you think that this may be contributing to your reluctance to tell them? perhaps there is one family member you feel the closer with than others, would you feel comfortable sharing it with that person?
in any case, i hope you take the time to think through these issues and remember not to set a timeline on yourself. praying for all the best =)
Good luck.
I also learned my lesson in over sharing about myself when I was trying to get out and be more social, feels like some look at me differently and basically avoid me. giving it a little more time, since it could just be me being paranoid.