when you say BFF do you mean a boyfriend? I'm having a hard time being emotionally available enough for my hubby it makes me sad and that in turn makes me more spacey. It is a crappy loop of events. I seem to not talk much and get too close to very many people myself I know how you feel.

Aziza, I'm not positive what starynite means by it, but BFF is usually an abbreviation for "Best Friend Forever"...alot of shortened forms of phrases have come into use with the popularity of "texting", to save people's thumbs from typing all those extra letters!

But whether its a Best Friend or a Boy Friend, it can be tough to find someone who
accepts us for who we are, flaws included.
The thing to remember, I think, is that noone
is perfect. Everyone has weaknesses and strengths, its just that an actual disability
of some sort can be more obvious. I've long been of the opinion that those who judge others or are biased against them, due to something they can't control, are suffering from the worst disability of all: intolerance. We can only hope they recover.

My son is 10 and he has never been able to develop friendships with people. I don't think we have ever had anyone to the house. He says that he really wants to make friends and he trys his best, but it seems that he is never really able to make that necessary connection to sustain the friendship. He is not mean or harmful, just a little odd so I don't think you are alone.

I would also try checking out if you can look into personality itself there are shy types that can be overlooked one is misdiagnosed a lot. Avoidance Personality Disorder can be very crappy to live with. Another thing to think about is that the older you get the harder it is to keep and get friends.

Since being diagnosed I've stopped trying to force myself to be everyone's best friend, because I realize that I don't get a lot of personal satisfaction from most friendships and I don't actually NEED people to like me. It would be nice, because it makes life much more pleasant, but it's not necessary. I'm married to a man who not only works with students with LDs and MH, but might have a touch of ADD himself, and we love and respect each other in spite of the spaciness and occasional hyperactive anxiousness. I have a best friend, someone who I've known for about 6 years, but our relationship isn't really normal. We'll often go a week without talking, sometimes I'll avoid her calls for days and not return any of her messages, sometimes we'll talk 4 times a day for days on end. Just like hubby and I, she and I respect each other's oddities and have a great relationship because of it.

So I guess what I'm saying is that having ADD/ADHD isn't a death sentence, and it doesn't mean that you'll never be able to make good friends or have a relationship. It just means you have to wade through some crappy people who don't understand you before you find some that love you anyway :) And you will, honey. Stick it out, and you'll find happiness.

thank u so much for all these responses

BFF's is an absolute term for a temporary situation. I know what you mean, though, I would just suggest not taking the term so literally. People come and go through our lives even more so than in our parent's generation.

Be a good friend to the friends in your life TODAY. The "forever" part takes care of itself.

what great advise _ Ii've been hurt so many times in different friendships. and what tops it off is that my friends say that I am rude and offensive, with mood swings. I don't mean it, though