Just wanted to say....don't be to hard on yourself! take care Betty

I actually felt a lot of things when I found out. One of them was releif because I finally realized why I am the way I am. I know that there is a stigma on the medication, but if it is going so badly for you that it is hard to keep a job you might want to try it. I was a telephone operator for several years which was pretty easy. Then I was an emergency services coordinator and I loved the job, but couldn't handle all the responsibilities. Now I work 3 nights a week at a residential facility, Super easy. I hope things get better for you. Let me know.

SunFlower, sometimes I feel sad, too....:(
but it's not about having ADHD, it's about not being able to pick up and move on.
Sometimes, feel like I am in Quicksand.

BUT, have PTSD, too.....THAT seems to be my Biggest Demon...not sure, however...

Know I am tired of feeling like this...
that being said, must admit today I FELT better than I have in a long, long time..

Seem like something clicked late last night when I decided to accomplish something, even IF was one thing at a time...
been washing clothes and folding clothes, and still have to finish, but...
am Forcing myself to complete one task @ a time...
Before I get in the kitchen, I am going to finish with the folding.....thank GOODNESS most have been folded & put away, so just Feeling Better about myself has made a difference.....Big Difference.
Doesn't sound like much, but honey, ANYTHING was better than nothing...:)

I was very leary of trying medication at first too, but have not found anything else that really helps. One option you might try for is to begin with a low dose. I kept mine at a low dose for a long time and even that makes a huge difference. If you are worried about taking the drugs, remember that if you actually have ADD or ADHD that they will help to correct the imbalance in your brain. This is why people with ADD or ADHD often feel calmer on the medications, while people without ADD who take it tend to get "wired." I know that I've "experimented" with my meds and tried to take a higher dose to get wired like other people before (which I am not reccomending) and ended up calm and even fallen asleep, which is generally something that normal people can't do on adderall or ritalin.
I was so sad before I started complying with my medication, and after i finally started taking it, just being able to get more accomplished on a daily basis instead of stressing myself out so much because I had to constantly force myself to get things done was a huge relief! My advice would be to consider starting whatever medication your doctor reccomends at a low dose and increasing it only if you have to. You can always quit taking it if you decide you don't like it.
And, if you still aren't sure about that, consider getting a coach. There are people out there that specialize in helping people with ADD learn to cope with it through organization skills, time management, goal setting, etc.

Hi Sunflower

There is something that only you can do. You are valuable to God even if you do nothing. He made you with a special purpose. he loves you/ really. my son has add and it has been hard, but he has discovered his strengths- artistic, spontaneous, love of life.

Hugs to you

lanalinnie

Thanks for all your replies. I may look into meds one day, but for now I'm making going to the gym to work out a part of my life... after I exercise it always gives me that happy feeling.. releasing those endorphins. :)

My son who is 13 is adhd. It has been such a struggle froam a-z. He has been on meds but we have changed them over the past6 years when he said he did not want to take anything. So, I took him off. He had one semester of 6th grade left. He failed misserably,but was able to squeak by. Thers's also been an increase in his raging and mood. When i called his doctor back to get him on meds again (MY) choice she directed us to an add specialist. This man has been an answer to my prayers. He is so knowlegable, has started him on low dose 5 mg of Focolin, now we are up to 10 mg. He is still raging and having trouble but we are getting more testing done and he's starting a new middle school a very small one 10 kids in middle school where he will shine as that is the envoioment he needs. He's even looking forward to scholl!!!!!!!!! My suggustion is to try to get to the add specialist if possible and get the right treatment to help yourself. From what we have learned NO child or adult likes to take their meds but IT WILL HELP. Please hang in there and good luck. hope

i don't want to try meds either...yes i get sad, especially when my family is talking to me about something important and i realize i haven't been paying attention to them....i'm going to try the add stragegy pack by vaxa...i got my kisd attend by vaxa....i hope it helps...there are so many side effects with meds....sorry you're feeling so discouraged.....

Hugggssss Sunflower,
Sometimes I feel sad, but I'm more inclined to think that I just...am feeling sad in general, ya know? Lots of reasons I could feel sad, and there are times I just allow myself to do it. I'm allowed to feel sad and so are you. Bottom line, though, in the whole scheme of things in life, there are countless things I think I could deal with that would be much more difficult for me to deal with than my ADD/ADHD. Don't give up, and keep trying. It's not a dead end road you see, my dear, but merely a detour ahead.
love ya
hugs
patti

check it out, dah-ling...

http://www.healing-arts.org/children/ADHD/ADHD-links.htm

Bamaflash - I can so relate to that - I am trying VERY HARD to finish what I start, it is so hard, & feel frustrated, but like you I have felt better this last couple of days as I have succeeded a bit more (not a lot!) but a bit - and what you succeeded with is BRILLIANT - a breakthrough - when I realised this just very short while ago....

take GOOD care, Sunflower...

thank you, dah-ling..........:)

Miss Sunflower, check out this thread......this is what I posted.....

This was a big help to me today...plus, there is really a Fabulous amount of info here........:)
Hugs.......:o)
Check out the posting of:
ADDA Regional Conferences

LOTS Of good information on this site!! it's large, but was led to it by a clarity of 'search' thru Google---
WOW!! the DOOR suddenly opened to information I REALLY, really needed!!
thumbs UP!!
GOODDDDDD work!!...:)

I don't have ADHD, my son does. There are days he feels the same way. Hope you feel better soon. As far as meds go have you tried Strater yet? My son is on it, non-stimulant, and he is doing super. I feel much better giving him Stratera than some of the other meds. We have taken our meds together each morning for several years now (I take 2 thyroid meds, HBP meds, and several differen vitamins that the doctor suggests). It helps both of us feel better. My mother-in-law and a friend of ours all take our meds at the same time of the day so that we know we are not alone. Silly I know but we always smile. Hope you feel better soon.

My husband has ADHD and has some days just as you describe. I've been doing extensive research in ways to help him as well as being a spouse of a person with ADD/ADHD and how to better understand and help work with the frustrations. At this point in time he does not wish to try meds either. So, we talk and work through as much as we can. I see some improvements but will continue to read and study on different options that may help him. Hope you find that these difficult days pass quickly and try to find things you really enjoy during these down times. Peace Love and Joy .... :)

Im sad all the time

you try having 3 Parents and having 3 brothers and 2 sister.

3 days a go I cut my self with a hanger on my arm.