Hey,
Well i dont have a boyfriend in my life that is a dwarf, but i see how people treat them and that is why i joined, i think it is so stupid treating someone diffrent because of there hight and stuff i mean i think them people need to get a grip, everyone is human and has feelings.
And has everything worked out with you guys?
ihope so, and i hope that he can understand that people are stupid and shouldnt listen to them. like i tell everyone else like rednecks at mt school talking about black kids, if u were to cut your arm and theres your blood is the same color, no one is really diffrent, we are the way we are because thats the way was made to be. If you know what i mean.
I really really hope everything goes and turns out fab-ulas. with you two.
And congrats on the baby girl.
how is she?
hope to hear from you soon sweetheart. leave me a message as soon as you can.
XOXO Hazel

Hazel,

Him and i are going to therapy seperatly as of right now. Hes been able to make some positive steps towards changing. It is a slow process and im patient. I understand a little more about what has gone on in our relationship and im totally trying to stick it out. I feel pretty good about it.

Our little one is doing well thanks.

I wish there were more people in the world that were willing to try to understand. People are just people in my eyes until they start acting ignorant then i see them as the ones who are different.. Because they are the ones who are blind and never see past their own noses. I feel angry at the things they do and and say but still i feel sorry for them at the same time. They will never understand the beauty of life and how interesting the little differences in people can be. Its sad really.. and they are usually lonely, miserable, and in my personal oppinion, unintelligent people ..

thanks for the post. :) dont ever be afraid to stick up for what you believe in..

People who do not ask questions to understand others, fear them so therefore they are the ones who need to get a grip.. i agree with neverforget08 and what she is saying..

My husband has achondroplasia. It is hard to realize sometimes that we are not "normal". I feel your need to have someone who just "gets" it. My husband and I went to therapy separately and also together. Have you thought about trying to go together? It helps sometimes to have a neutral party to help sort things out. I don't know- but it helped us.

As of right now we are broken up :(

It has gotten to the point where i wonder if he really is able to care about someone other than himself. Ive gone through 2 and a half years of mental abuse and i feel like ive given him ample opportunities to do something.. anything.. to show me hes capable of giving me something in our relationship.

He went to therapy.. then i went to therapy.. then we went to couples.. and in the middle of the last one he admitted the only reason he has been going is because he thinks ill leave him if he doesnt. I feel like he has learned his whole life how to not show people how hes really feeling and be the person he thinks other people want him to be in order to be liked. :(

if you would like to email me and speak with me more in depth about things that you guys have gone through, i would love to hear about them. Maybe it would offer me some insight.

thanks for commenting!

he sounds so much like my husband.
what i would say to do is let him go because he is hurting you
....but what i would do if i where you is fight to the bitter end.
Good luck and please keep in touch!

It's his loss. He doesn't deserve you.
My wife has Achondroplasia and we get along great.
I can't remember the last time we had even a little argument.
She does everything around the house and I do most of the cooking.
people stare sometimes but most know us around here and we're friends with many in the area.
Like I said...his loss.

I have to sound like IL's echo here, but it's his loss.

I think it's silly to judge anyone poorly on their height, weight, interests, ethnicity, religion etc etc

You cant help who you fall for. Personally I had a little crush on Warwick Davis for a while after I saw his movie Willow. Whoever thinks thats wrong, need's a reality check.

I know very little about what the situation must have been like londonsmom, but I know that he's got to get over what insecurities he has because he is missing out on some good things.

My boyfriend has achondroplasia and he does have a lot of insecurities as well. I think a lot of it has to do with being judged his whole life because of his height and while he has some really close friends there are still some very cruel people in the world. We've never fought about it or anything but I can understand your feelings of anxiety toward the situation because it's difficult to handle. But girl, no man whether 7 feet tall or 2 feet tall, should ever make you feel abused or unwanted. Y'all have a beautiful gift of a daughter between the two of you and if he isn't going to go to therapy to be the husband that he needs to be then he needs to go to be the father that he has to be.
Every situation is different, and I am definitely not an expert but I have had to find the strength within myself to get out of an abusive relationship before and it's really tough. I don't know you that well, but if you ever wanted to talk I would love to help. I might have some of my questions of my own that you might be able to answer. Hope everything works out for the best.
Meg

Dear londonsmom,
I have achondroplasia and my boyfriend doesn't,actually he's 6'2.. I can honestly say at first I was jelous of him,because he could reach things at high places with out asking for help.People didnt stare at him when he walk outside his house.But then I realized that it's not his fault, nor mineIt's just the way life is.I did have to adjust to things being so different. He was so pateint with me,and kept telling me that I am beautiful and being short doesnt belittle me,nor make me less than normal.I think if your partner had someone to talk to who can relate,maybe he can see how much he's missing in life when all he sees is his height. But I do want you to know that it's not you,no matter how many time you tell him you love him,or you don't see him different,He has to see it for him self.
best of luck,
hope things get better :)

Would you ladies date/marry a guy who is only 4'8" tall? Would you be concerned with other people's prejudice?

There are meetings and outings that people that have dwarfism can go to. Google dwarfism and they should have a list of places and times the organizations meet. Sometimes it can bring things in to perspective for both partners. Good luck

Abusive people rarely change. Please Google or get a book on the issue of abuse. After two years of mental abuse, your self esteem and sense of reality have likely been altered. Getting abused doesnt just hurt in the moment--its damaging in the long run...And can't blame his insecurities for his bad character

Hello!! My husband has achondroplasia and so does my son. My husband goes through harrassment about his height every day at work, not by coworkers but by customers that dont understand. He and my son are the only ones in town with dwarfism so they are different. But with his family in his hometown they are all over. My father in law and 1 brother in law have dwarfism as well. So if you ever want to talk I am all ears!!