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People think it's weird for wearing diapers because society has put such a negative spin on them. Growing up getting potty trained lots of kids are taught that diapers are for babies or the old people in nursing homes. They are never taught that there are people that have to wear them all the time.

When I first had to start wearing 24/7, going to work with diapers on wasn't easy. Now I have accepted my diapers as my underwear and treat them like that accept I have to change my underwear more often than other people. I live a normal active life and work a 40-60hr work weeks without any issues. Took me some time to figure out what diapers work best and from the sounds of it, you are already using some of the best ones out there. Managing my fluid intake, I can use either of the Northsore diapers you noted and make it through a 12hr work day without having to change. So far no one has ever noticed and if they have, they have never said anything.

it's not so easy to work wearing adult briefs - esp when it's for bowel loss also. I just got some tranquility ATNs which I used years ago. They are very comfortable and can contain a bowel movement if one wears plastic pants on top.

I can't imagine why anyone should think it weird to be incontinent and wear some form of protection. There must be some weird people around who have such ideas.

It's true !!! I been judge about wearing diapers must of my life. I only told my family and closest friends. There are some people out there that do find out and make fun of you. I can't help it if I need diapers all the time.

I just don't let them bother me. Diapers help me in my own way.

I wear incontinence pads held in place with fixation pants. I don't bother to hide my supplies or washing. If I tried to keep them secret I would worry about someone finding out: so I don't. Anyone who thinks incontinence is funny is not worth listening to.

People think stuff like that is funny. until it happens to them.

I have 24/7 issues due to spinal injuries 30+ years ago. Started as bedwetting and has got worse over the years, though I was a bedwetter as a child and into my teens.
I use the TENA Slip Maxi active fit as I have found them the best for me and just enable me to get on with life.
Married to a wonderful and understanding wife and we have three wonderful children. Incontinence is a medical condition to be managed but I do know that there is the stigma issue to deal with. I have been honest with a few close friends but I know it is not easy.
Managing changing at work is difficult. I use the disabled facilities but of course don’t look disabled so have been challenged. The last time this happened I took them back into the facility and showed them. They were more embarrassed than me for challenging me !
The key I found was to find protection I could trust and then just treat it as my underwear. I hope this helps a bit. .