Abstinence & Celibacy Support Group
The pressures of sex from peers, the media and culture can be overwhelming, but you are in total control of your body and celibacy is a choice that many are making. Find sanctuary with people who are choosing to abstain without fear of judgment.
Does anyone else out there feel bashful talking about sex with (sort-of-)friends/acquaintances?
I value sex as a concept, even though I've never had it. I want to share myself in that deep way only with the right person. Talking about sex with someone with whom I DON'T have a high degree of trust makes me feel uncomfortable, since I have such strong feelings associated with it. If I'm going to open myself up to someone with those feelings, I really need to have those feelings respected.
If/when I find such a person to have sex with, I will want to open up to her hugely :-). In a way that I haven't opened up to anyone else.
...And yet, so many people in my communities talk casually about sex. They joke about it. Boast about it. To them, it seems, sex is a commodity.
And then there's TV, movies, ads, etc.
Can anyone relate to feeling uncomfortable talking casually about sex?
I value sex as a concept, even though I've never had it. I want to share myself in that deep way only with the right person. Talking about sex with someone with whom I DON'T have a high degree of trust makes me feel uncomfortable, since I have such strong feelings associated with it. If I'm going to open myself up to someone with those feelings, I really need to have those feelings respected.
If/when I find such a person to have sex with, I will want to open up to her hugely :-). In a way that I haven't opened up to anyone else.
...And yet, so many people in my communities talk casually about sex. They joke about it. Boast about it. To them, it seems, sex is a commodity.
And then there's TV, movies, ads, etc.
Can anyone relate to feeling uncomfortable talking casually about sex?
...The problem I'm really having is even hearing about it. It brings up strong feelings for me of angst, longing, frustration... feeling like I'm not being seen or understood (for the way I am...). But you can't stop people from talking about it, obviously.
I wish I could feel more confident in how I am.
Does anyone have any words of support to work towards this goal?
Sometimes people have done a lot of something but never really experienced it. Some people drink a lot but are too drunk to remember it. Some sleep around a lot but can only joke about it.
That's ok though. If they are more into the clueless talk, just chime along whenever. And when you find someone deep, then you can talk deep.