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I met a girl who came to have more interest in me than I had in her. I told her a little while ago that I needed distance and that for the foreseeable future, if she got in touch with me, I would respond to her, but I'd need time to.
However, I realized it would be healthier for me to make a clean break no contact with her for a set amount of time. I decided that would be a few weeks. The end date of that is in a week, but she has now tried to reach me twice: once by phone, and the other by e-mail, the latter a couple of days ago.
I want to honor my need for emotional healing. But I also empathize with her wanting to get acknowledgment from me about something (I'm guessing). And I know what it feels like to want badly to hear from someone and not hearing.
Do I break my streak and send her a message saying that I will contact her again when I'm ready? Or do I say nothing at all until I'm ready to break the silence I felt was necessary?
[If you respond to this, please do so gently. I also ask for empathy as much as possible. Thanks...]
However, I realized it would be healthier for me to make a clean break no contact with her for a set amount of time. I decided that would be a few weeks. The end date of that is in a week, but she has now tried to reach me twice: once by phone, and the other by e-mail, the latter a couple of days ago.
I want to honor my need for emotional healing. But I also empathize with her wanting to get acknowledgment from me about something (I'm guessing). And I know what it feels like to want badly to hear from someone and not hearing.
Do I break my streak and send her a message saying that I will contact her again when I'm ready? Or do I say nothing at all until I'm ready to break the silence I felt was necessary?
[If you respond to this, please do so gently. I also ask for empathy as much as possible. Thanks...]
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I am waiting for info on the next seasons for: Untamed, The Burbs and Happys Place.
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What’s the biggest challenge in your life right now?
Honor yourself and be true to yourself by following through with what you said you would do.
I've thought a lot about it. I want her to be gone from me. but I also really empathize with being in her shoesjust not hearing from someone. I've been there, and it really hurt for me.
I also know that life isn't black and white, and that if you're going to stick to something come heck or high water without reevaluating the circumstances around it and its value to you, you're going to be worse off. (Or at least could be.)
I just sent her a two-line e-mail saying, simply, that I'm not ready to communicate and will let her know when I am.
If it alleviates any fear she had that I would never get back to her... then I've been of help to someone.
At the same time, it was not a heartfelt message.
Was it a good balance between protection and compassion?