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- "you didn’t cause the relationship to be severed; it was not your choice. "https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/estranged-from-your-adult-child-5-things-you-can-do/"It is always, always, always, the fault of the parent when the child won’t...
- and I wonder if estrangers ever really sat down and thought about what they are teaching those around them, particularly their children.I am not talking about the obvious need to cut ties with an abusive person (which I have had to do). But those...
- "Why kids today are out of shape, disrespectful – and in charge" and what a strange twist of events. This generation of parents are in for a very bumpy ride, especially those who think they should estrange their parents for such flimsy...
- So we may not have our child/ren in our lives but we got their cells floating and they may be helping us, which is more than I can cay for some of our offspring. http://www.tikkun.org/tikkundaily/tikdaily58986.html
- if I just won the powerball lottery. My ed fantasized about that all the time, and I don't mean she just wished she won, she spent a fortune on buying tickets and thinking it would give her the fairytale princess life she always dreamed of. me I...
- In some cultures it is said that pearls represent tears, and let's face it have we cried a lot of them. In fact I am swimming in them. Yet here I am wearing the crown of pearls, and I am swimming freely not in a pool of misery, but in the big open...
- I call it a trick because it is one of the tactics an abuser will use to put you on the defensive. They will constantly question your loyalty to them. It's clever because so often we want to remain loyal to our loved one's, yet it's our Achilles ...
- No, not playing a game and it's not off topicI wanted to share this because once we become aware of what someone is doing it paves the way for major changes and understanding that it really isn't about...
- If it's not already hard enough with others abusing our love, abusing us emotionally, verbally or physically we say things to ourselves we would NEVER say to someone we loved. I will be the first to admit that having my own mother and daughter...
- I once had a friend who did something really mean and she eventually apologized (and with a boat load of excuses about how ill she is bla bla bla) after we talked about why what she did was so hurtful. She didn't really get it, but she apologized...
- Check this outhttp://standalone.org.uk/about/
- and it was scurrying around in the spare room and so I spent the morning stripping down the clutter in the room and the closet. Got the mouse and it's out of the house. Amongst the boxes of clutter I found some of my ed's artwork I had been hanging...
- Well like many of you I got the "toxic" label thrown at me, as well as my husband. Like many of you I actually spent time exploring the possibility, talked to my friends, family, my son, took tests and checked it out with my therapist I saw for a...
- so I was hunting coping with estrangement and saw the word snickers and thought YES a snicker bar would really do it lol. alas no snicker bars, but some good ideas and perhaps helpful for the upcoming holidays. sorry if it's been posted...
- and I just absolutely love these cardshttp://www.upworthy.com/7-new-nontraditional-empathy-cards-that-say-what-other-cards-can-get-totally-wrong?g=2&c=ufb2how many of us relate to the 5 stages of grief card ;)So often we don't realize or acknowledge...