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- Around the holidays, I shared that after installing Chrome on my laptop, up popped my ED's facebook account, logged in. This gave me a shocking, unexpected look into her life (she moved out of town over Labor Day). Things are not going well. I...
- So, a few days before Christmas, I downloaded Chrome on my laptop and was STARTLED to discover I was logged onto ED's Facebook page with her password! (She must've used Chrome on my laptop before the estrangement?) It's still a technological...
- I'm not a perfect person. I lose my temper sometimes out of frustration and stress. I have been working very hard to overcome this tendency, and I've made real progress. Two nights ago, I had a melt down and said some mean things to my youngest...
- My ED and I had such a toxic, co-dependent relationship, I'm beginning to wonder if she felt she needed to estrange herself in order to move forward. And if that's the case, if that's what it takes for her to grow up and ASSUME RESPONSIBILITY for...
- This came up in an earlier thread. My ED openly admitted before leaving that she hates most people. She thinks they are ignorant, judgmental, etc. A viewpoint which, of course, supports her theory that she is superior to most others. She's...
- Last night, I went through some of my ED's things that are stored in a closet. I found her first pair of baby shoes, which I've kept all this time. I also found a spiral notebook with thoughts she kept as she graduated from high school and forged...
- Anyone else's thoughts and feelings flip-flop on a daily basis like this? I'm thinking I have to allow both kinds of emotion in dealing with this estrangement, but it's exhausting. Some days, I feel just battle weary. Like, there's a battle going...
- Yesterday while at work, I received a phone call from someone doing a reference check for a former employee: my ED. DH and I own a business, and while ED did work for us on and off for several years, she has never been able to hold down any other...
- I know Reddit.Com was the basis for previous thread, but I didn't pay much attention to it until IGAVE recently reminded me. There is an on-line community within Reddit, RAISEDBYNARCISSISTS, that supports adult children going NC (no contact) with...
- Our ED is 23 and still entitled to my DH's insurance plan. We received a notice in the mail yesterday from our insurance company that ED spent the night in the hospital a few weeks ago (different town) to the tune of $7,000+. Insurance covered...
- Do you know I love chalk painting furniture to make it look old and distressed? Neither did I, until ED left with EGD and I found myself with time, freedom and the need to keep myself busy and productive. I started with a simple buffet table and...
- A recent post by Healingmyheart prompted me to ask others how they have found closure with their EC. She writes, "I've given up hope, as it was the "hope" that was killing me, knowing that this is what it is forever, has helped me gain acceptance...
- We have something in common. We have daughters who, in adulthood, have returned to their biological mothers. Estrangement is painful. But this.... It's the ultimate insult. Which is good, really, is a hard way. Because it makes it that much...
- Our ED is the oldest of our three daughters. She spent their entire childhood manipulating and using them. Before our ED skipped town this week, she sexually assaulted our youngest, who's 16, while her sick BF sat on the couch, doing nothing. ...
- This is my first post, after gleaning so much wisdom and validation from all of you for weeks now.Yesterday, DH discovered the condo we've been providing for our ED had been vacated. No forwarding address. No advanced notice. She took nearly...