topiarystepmom
Status: The hard part is over. Happiness now is inevitable if we can just let it happen!
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- Along with more than one way to skin a cat - (With apologies to all cat lovers out there - it is NOT MY expression lol), we know now that there is more than one type of estrangement.I had a big blowup with one of the members of another (non-PEACE)...
- I wanted to comment a bit on what went down on PEACE the other day concerning the development of this new group. Needless to say there was a lot of upset and some people's feelings were hurt. THAT is not what we are all about here. I think the...
- Permanent ScarsToday I had a thought…there are long term effects of abuse – So after 38 years of dealing with our ECs and their deceptions and mistreatment, had my husband and I suffered any post traumatic stress?The answer may be yes – it...
- FIrst, I would really like to say thanks to all of you who have joined this group and also to those who are thinking of joining in the near future. I must say, I was amazed (happily) at this very positive response.Today we have started a new...
- Hi Folks - As you join, if you can, would you give us some deets about you, perhaps a generalized age group of your ECs - (i.e.18-25, 25-35, 35-45, 45+) this may be relevant in how we deal with our issues btw, what was the last straw and if your...
- Good Morning and Welcome to Parents Who Walk AwayThis group was started to provide a forum for those of us who have had enough of our estranged children and their drama. We have pretty much closed the door on the serial estrangements, the demeaning...
- Hi FolksJust wanted to try starting up a group specifically for those of us who have walked away from our estranged relationships. I have seen a lot discussion on PEACE about that topic but there are also many other threads that talk about many...
- Bumped for new membersWe spend a lot of time on this site - talking about the love we have for our children - How it is ever present and unconditional. My husband and I starting talking about it the other day. How we feel about each other. How in 38...
- One of my facebook friends sent posted this - thought you folks might like it!...TOPIARYOne day a farmer's donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do. Finally, he decided the...
- This weekend my youngest nephew came up for the weekend. He brought his girlfriend of 5 months and they came on Thurs nite and just left this afternoon.The weekend was a litmus test on several levels. The first was that I hadn’t seen my nephew...
- One of the replies to a posting said that a reconcilliation that goes awry would be chilling. Yes - it is a totally chilling prospect - we did it numerous times with all 3 of our children and look what eventually happened - wow what a...
- As a reply to one of my posts, somebody had written: "There will never be any going back for Topiary and she will never again in her lifetime or her husband's lifetime have a relationship with her children because she can't let go of the hurt and...
- Hi Folks - Now that I am fairly comfortable with y'all, this is the infamous letter of which I have spoken many times. Click here if you dare...Comments Anyone?http://thetopiary.com/letter.html
- Found this on a ACA (adult children of alcoholics site. It is about detachment techniques for abusive relationships but it was incredibly easy to tweek it it so that it applies to some of our situations. Here it is - Comments anyone?Here are...
- Today my husband had been scheduled for some surgery. Granted, it was merely a hernia and only day surgery, but it was still more than a little scary and hectic for me. Not only was I waiting around all day at the hospital, worrying about my...