Woohoo! Braces!
i had our first orthodontist consult today. Braces going on Monday. Total cost NOT cover by insurance is 4000
sent the doc to ex. Now, what I would normally do is tell him I didn't expect him to contribute. I don't want one dime from him. I prefer to just cut him out completely. That is my comfort zone.
but, maybe I need to stop letting him off the hook. So this time, I didn't say a word. I just sent it. He called immediately. He didn't say it but clear he is worried about the money. I think I'll let him spin for a while. Maybe the lazy slob will get his ass off the couch and get a job.
i still don't want money from him though ...
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a big step in the right direction :) those are his kids - and he needs to help cover costs, not because you can't afford it yourself - but because he owes that to his kids. I'm glad you sent it, and he freaked out a bit.. he needs to start living in the reality that you're not his backup plan any longer. I hope talks with your lawyer are going well! Anything new? Oct 15th is my official 2 years divorced date.. as much as it hurts to get there Strong, that anniversary date is the best ever. Keeping you in my prayers, and looking forward to celebrating with you! ((hugs))
Thx MNN - I agree I need restart making him accountable. Frankly, the braces are a big hit. The bright side is that spousal support is supposed to end next summer - so that will be a buffaloed to the budget.
But, right now he pays nothing for any of the girls stuff - clothes, activities, child support - nothing. While I keep track of the activities bill ( sort of) for tax purposes, I think I need to get serious about tracking all kid costs in case he fights me on spousal or anything else.
I love the anniversary date :)
I celebrate several dates
- the day I found out it was over (June 11)
- the day we signed the separation agreement (dec 19)
- and ,.... The day I stop paying spousal support!!!!!! July 31 2017
I am planning a KICK ASS party! Am going to blow one whole spousal support cheque on it . That is, instead of paying ex, I pay myself! :). I can't wait!!!!
As to divorce - process has started. Ex doesn't know yet. We are getting everything lined up first.