why oh why me god?

I spoke with Sarah today on the phone.  it was not a good conversation. She still does not feel that the marriage is fixable.  I feel so horrible, because i felt the pain in her.  I felt the pain that i have caused her.  I was not the best husband, because i did choose things over my family, and i now am reaping it.  I only wish and pray that Sarah realizes that the seriousness of my changes are from the heart, and that she knows that i care deeply for her.  I am simply horrified that i have been this way.
As i was writing this, her number popped up on my phone.  I answered it and much to my surprise, it was my son Tommy!  I really enjoyed talking with him.  I miss them all soo much.  I was extremely thankful for sarah allowing me to speak with him.  I also am glad that we were able to talk today.  I really think if we continue to talk, she will know the seriousness of me being the better man she wants and needs.  And it is for me.  I hated the old me.  I still do.  I am trying to prove to the world i can and will change.  NOT SARAH!  i want her to see for her own eyes, and love the man that she married, not the me i changed into after the deployments
Today i want to talk about the pilot career i did not do.  I wanted to join the Marines for four years active duty enlisted, and go to college while i was active to get a comission and be a combat helicopter pilot.  I tried to go to school while i was enlisted, but only managed to get three classes doen, due to training and deployments.  When i got out, i did not have time to go to school do to work.  I wasted time with a bullshit job building race cars that didnt pan out at all.  I moved out to AZ and got a retail job that had me work a lot of hours.  It paid allright, but i was unhappy, because there was no sick days, one week of vacation, period.  Just f-ing bullshit.  I never had time to go to school there.  I attempted to join the US Army to be a warrant officer and fly blackhawks, but i could not pass a flight physical because of my back.  Now, i dont even know if i would want to be a pilot in the military, because of my family.  I hated that i missed my first son's birth and missed out on my family.  I have been living with that also.  I am not even sure about what i want to go to school for anymore.  I still want to go, but i do not even know what i want to do.  The pilot idea is dead, and i have to accept that.  I can still be a pilot, but not a combat pilot.  I was thinking about being a lawyer.  I just have to get situated with myself first, my family next, then start doing a few classes when i can.