Why do I always think others are mad at me me when I don't get a reply right away?
My head starts to spin thinking crazy thoughts, when I send people who know me and I know them an email or message on FB and I don't get a reply I automatically think they are mad at me, they heard crap about me. I don't like when others are mad at me. I hate it. I want everyone to like me and when I feel there withdrawn my head starts to spin. I need to know now, I need to get a reply when I send someone messages. Maybe I'm thinking in too much of this, I need to get off of FB and get my house in order. Why can't I accept who cares what others think about me, if they don't like me thats there loss. I would love to feel this way, but its hard. I guess I don't have alot of friends that I can talk to on the phone. Since I have moved out to the desert, its been hard to find friends. Thats why I like working at least I have someone to talk to. Talking to my animals is getting old. : ( I'm sad and lonely.
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It\'s not that they are mad at you. . it\'s that they are busy, and not everyone checks their email everyday. . . I know exactly how you feel, we moved here after I graduated school and I never really made alot of friends. . .You need to take the time you have now to get out there and try to meet people at the library, church, coffee shop, bar, park, etc. . .It\'s easier said than done!!
Wow, I am EXACTLY the same. Whenever I send someone a message or something and they don\'t reply I assume they are either mad at me for something and if it\'s new people I add on here, I think maybe they just think I\'m unattractive and I don\'t matter enough for them to reply to me. When I send someone a message and they don\'t reply, I look at their activity feed and if I notice they\'ve been online since I sent them the message, these thoughts start to go through my head. Of course, the reason I think this is the case is because I\'ve always felt unliked and like there is something wrong with me. So naturally, I expect people to reject me.
I guess I needed to vent, they finally replied to me and it wasn\'t about me, they were just busy, but I did have another friend come online to send back and forth messages, I guess lack of communication got to me since I\'m on my third day of not working. Well my BF has me running errands tomorrow so at least I will get out of the house. I think I will stop by the library, I want to ask about reading to kids, and it\'s summer time kids are out of school, I love kids, unfortunanely I wasn\'t able to have kids.
I sometimes feel the same way. It\'s frustrating. They are usually just busy though and don\'t mean anything by it. I think we all want to be liked. I hope you find some good friends to hang out with. You will get another job, then you will have some interaction with people again.
Thanks, my stepdaughters are coming this Saturday for two weeks, so I will have company by my side, I\'m getting excited