Why Cant I Just Let Go!!!- Tony

I have a goal to STOP LOVING TOO MUCH and I cant seem to get over that when it comes to Tony... I have been controlling that boy and guiding him for so long that I just cant stop. I went to pay him a visit yesterday and he was explaining some new things that was going on since I have been gone. All I could tell him were things he needs to watch out for. I couldnt tell him anything positive about what he said. I feel he only looks at things one sided and never sees the whole picture and what could happen if he took a certain route. So leave it to me to just tell him all the wrongs to everything he says... I am realizing how much I am doing this more and more than ever before. I apologized to him and told him sorry for not thinking with a more positive attitude and supporting what he does. He didnt say much (as he always does) when I apologize he just acknowledges it and just goes about as if nothing happened. I find that soothing because who wants to be reminded of what they do wrong.  I treat Tony the way I do because I dont have that much respect for him as a man. I feel that at his age (29) he needs to be thinking more on his feet. I feel that he has a responsibility to himself to make sure he can think and take action all on his own. He is a super smart guy so I dont know why he doesnt use that in his life when he makes decisions. Its like he likes women just doing everything for him. WOW- I just got an idea!! Maybe he likes women doing all these things for him because of the women issues he has about not finding a woman he knows will love him. So he just leaves all his shit to a woman to figure out. It keeps them busy on him and keeps them around.....WOW COULD I BE A VICTIM TO TONYS INSECURITIES???? Thats so funny how I just thought about that... My goal for STOP LOVING TOO MUCH  is to be as distant as possible to Tonys crave for attention. He seems to be luring me in more and more and I just cant use all my time up on him like that. I feel like he does it on purpose and I dont want any part of it. I am going to be as impartial as possible to all his needs and just support whatever I feel he is progressing in. All the other stuff Im just going to acknowledge and give advice IF ASKED TO... I am updating some goals with my realization: TRUST AND VALIDATE MYSELF because I truely feel this way and I know I am making a good decision for myself and my wellbeing. BECOME STRESS FREE because I am taking away stressfull situations and creating more space for love, peace, and tranquility. STOP LOVING TOO MUCH because I am becoming more and more aware of my actions and its a working progress!!