Why am I cursed with such a brother.
My brother calls and wakes me this morning around 8:30, I usually don't get up till 9 and as far as I knew my brother isn't usually up that early. But he decided to call my sister for some reason and she isn't feeling well. I"m not sure why he would think I don't know this since I check on her all the time and visit ehr three times a week at least and stay the night over at her house once a week but my brother feels he has to cal lme as son as he knows this and tell me about it.
so I tell him I already know and have told her caretakers and they are going to make a doctor appointment on Monday if she needs one. But I would check on her. So I was already worried about her cause she was acting kind loopy as I have said and I call and talk to her and she says she is dizzy and wants to go tot he hospital. So I go and check on her and she seems a little worse than before so I decide to take her to the ER.
It turns out she is producing too much calcium with can happen after having cancer like she had and it fits all her symptoms, not having an appetite feeling like she wants to vomit when she eats, being kinda dizzy of faint and being kinda unresponsive, or lethargic. So we take care of that though she stil lhas to make an appointment to see her doctor on Monday.
11 and a half hours later I get her home and within ten minutes the phone rings and it is my brother and he is all what is going on, why havne't you called me. I tried to call uealier and no one was there so I was worried. I explain and then mentoin I'm about to go home and he says it wouldn't kill you to stay the night with her. I ask what am I supposed to do for her she is just going to sleep.
So about fifteen minutes later he calls again and asks if I could ask her if she wants me to stay with her of\r if she wants him to come over and stay or something. I told him I usually stay Saturday nights because we go to Church tomorrow but she siad she didn't think she wanted to go to Church. So I wasn't staying, I'm not jsut leaving her without talking to her about it.
So becuase he has laid a guilt trip on me I go in and ask if she wants me to stay the night. She is already in bed covered up and snuggled in for the night. She says, you can stay if you want. I say I know that I can stay but is there anything you need me to do for you and she says, I'm going to sleep, in such a way that is more or less, hey I'm trying to sleep here will you go already.
And I get home and there is a message on my phone form my brother which happened at 10:00. My brother, with his vocal intonation that is like exasperation and condescension says, Kevin, its Keith, Where are you? What is going on? I called over to Lisa's and no one was there, Why haven't you called me if you know anything. Give me a call.
Made me angry that he called with this kind of thing only a few hours after waking me in the morning but then did nothing else, didn't try and check on things or call the ER or even cal again later,whatever but lays the whole thing on me to keep him informed or like I'm supposed to check in with him or report to him. He could have called over to my sisters right after calling me in the morning and seen if she needed anything but no, he lets it go for a couple hours after dumping it on me and then calls pissed sounding because I hadne't reported in. Meanwhile he does things like get my father off of getting more medical help and never tells me anything about it.
I feel like I am doing a bunch of things for them but I only get noticed when someone sees me doing something they don't like.
I only want to be left alone and I want to leave others alone but my family keeps asking or expecting things from me even if they arne't willing to do it themselves. But maybe I'm fed up or over stressed.
so I tell him I already know and have told her caretakers and they are going to make a doctor appointment on Monday if she needs one. But I would check on her. So I was already worried about her cause she was acting kind loopy as I have said and I call and talk to her and she says she is dizzy and wants to go tot he hospital. So I go and check on her and she seems a little worse than before so I decide to take her to the ER.
It turns out she is producing too much calcium with can happen after having cancer like she had and it fits all her symptoms, not having an appetite feeling like she wants to vomit when she eats, being kinda dizzy of faint and being kinda unresponsive, or lethargic. So we take care of that though she stil lhas to make an appointment to see her doctor on Monday.
11 and a half hours later I get her home and within ten minutes the phone rings and it is my brother and he is all what is going on, why havne't you called me. I tried to call uealier and no one was there so I was worried. I explain and then mentoin I'm about to go home and he says it wouldn't kill you to stay the night with her. I ask what am I supposed to do for her she is just going to sleep.
So about fifteen minutes later he calls again and asks if I could ask her if she wants me to stay with her of\r if she wants him to come over and stay or something. I told him I usually stay Saturday nights because we go to Church tomorrow but she siad she didn't think she wanted to go to Church. So I wasn't staying, I'm not jsut leaving her without talking to her about it.
So becuase he has laid a guilt trip on me I go in and ask if she wants me to stay the night. She is already in bed covered up and snuggled in for the night. She says, you can stay if you want. I say I know that I can stay but is there anything you need me to do for you and she says, I'm going to sleep, in such a way that is more or less, hey I'm trying to sleep here will you go already.
And I get home and there is a message on my phone form my brother which happened at 10:00. My brother, with his vocal intonation that is like exasperation and condescension says, Kevin, its Keith, Where are you? What is going on? I called over to Lisa's and no one was there, Why haven't you called me if you know anything. Give me a call.
Made me angry that he called with this kind of thing only a few hours after waking me in the morning but then did nothing else, didn't try and check on things or call the ER or even cal again later,whatever but lays the whole thing on me to keep him informed or like I'm supposed to check in with him or report to him. He could have called over to my sisters right after calling me in the morning and seen if she needed anything but no, he lets it go for a couple hours after dumping it on me and then calls pissed sounding because I hadne't reported in. Meanwhile he does things like get my father off of getting more medical help and never tells me anything about it.
I feel like I am doing a bunch of things for them but I only get noticed when someone sees me doing something they don't like.
I only want to be left alone and I want to leave others alone but my family keeps asking or expecting things from me even if they arne't willing to do it themselves. But maybe I'm fed up or over stressed.
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You are getting that negative attention it seems, only when you are not going with \"the program\"
I almost want to say RUN, but it seems that you are stuck with this awhile. Can you at least take a day off, and dont answer the phone? Just hide every so often (from brother) and deal with sister and dad without having to take his calls?
Take time if you can for yourself