when you have your answers

I am obsessing this morning. It's like a crazy squirrel energy in my head. I shy away from doing things


with my day...it's like I am afraid to assert myself in the world...so many times that has lead to trouble?? (is that it, is that what's bothering me??) or is it that it takes strength to pursue your own path and value it...and then to get along with others once you have your own path and your own 'answers' to life... 


I know in the past when I have found answers I have felt super proud of them - super proud and almost defiant at one point (quite a long time ago)


Maybe I need to find my own answers that are good for me - but not only that... that promote good will with those around me - that promote the good health of the relationships in my life.... I don't know... I know that I fear getting out there - like I am going to 'miss something' by going my own road... I think that anhedonia concept might fit in here too. It's so weird


how at a moments notice my mind can turn on me - and I will feel unloved - and rejected.. when i can logically say 'it's not true' but my emotions say so and to get over it "I need validation and comforting." Then it goes quiet for a while and then starts up all over again.

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malibumark
malibumark

it's weird, I have been finding it hard to submit myself in certain social situations. Like I don't want to suppress having things my way (but it's weird I know that's not cool)..and I try to do it - I know it's not ok to put my stuff on other people - and then slowly I lose track of myself and give up and all goes quiet and relaxed when I am around others.
Deckard
Deckard

Hang in there Mark...I've been obsessing too...
malibumark
malibumark

thanks.
arfie
arfie

For what it's worth:
When I get that hamster wheel effect going in my head, the thoughts are usually very repetitive. I decided to make use of that repetition by translating my thoughts to a foreign language. I started with Spanish y, si, ahora hablo muy bien. Now that I can obsess in two languages, these days I'm translating to German, Portuguese and Mandarin.

?Tal vez quisieras aprender espanol? Si, se puede.
malibumark
malibumark

si yo puedo entender, he estudiado espanol en escuela secondario. Un vez en el pasado habia hablado muy bien pero ahora no mucho. yo trabajo con muchos latinos pero yo tengo el accento espanola.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD

Well I think you're a great guy!!!.... do you think you might be a little manic sweetie?..... Big hug....xo
Deckard
Deckard

Mark is a nice guy
malibumark
malibumark

thanks guys! I don't know if I am manic. I see my Doctors soon in the beginning of January. For now it's just taking it a day at a time.