What He Left Behind
I was thinking of this today for some reason, what my husband left behind that meant a lot to him. It started with him studying for his securities test. He so much wanted to be a Certified Financial Planner, but the test are difficult, requiring much studying. With a full-time job it wasn't easy. Few people pass it, even after devoting a lot of time to it. But he did it. He was so proud. We both were.
His certificate arrived in the mail one month later. He wanted a frame so he could hang it on the wall in the den. He seached through several stores, looking for it, but could never find just the right one. Then he asked me, and I came up with a suggestion. Three days later he purchased the frame. He never got to use it. He died less than a week later.
So I was thinking about all the time we spend working toward a goal. It seems so important to us at the time, but what is the true worth of it? My husband had to leave the certificate here. I kept it, but I threw the frame out because without him, it had no meaning. I can't use the certificate, so all that hard work for nothing. All that time we could have enjoyed. I don't know, it just seems wrong on so many levels. If I were insane, I'd send them to him. But even if it were possible, he couldn't use them there either. Athiest or Thiest, we all know that what's here on earth can't be taken after we're gone.
Guess I'm in a mood today.
His certificate arrived in the mail one month later. He wanted a frame so he could hang it on the wall in the den. He seached through several stores, looking for it, but could never find just the right one. Then he asked me, and I came up with a suggestion. Three days later he purchased the frame. He never got to use it. He died less than a week later.
So I was thinking about all the time we spend working toward a goal. It seems so important to us at the time, but what is the true worth of it? My husband had to leave the certificate here. I kept it, but I threw the frame out because without him, it had no meaning. I can't use the certificate, so all that hard work for nothing. All that time we could have enjoyed. I don't know, it just seems wrong on so many levels. If I were insane, I'd send them to him. But even if it were possible, he couldn't use them there either. Athiest or Thiest, we all know that what's here on earth can't be taken after we're gone.
Guess I'm in a mood today.
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these sort of things do have you wondering about what we put our time and energy into. Time is precious. Hugs, D
You are so right! My husband had a lot of \"things\" here on earth that he enjoyed. When he died, he took nothing with him. Everything was left for me to worry with and try to sell or give away. It all means nothing in the end.
Some good thoughts....we all probably have thought of these things, but you put it in perspective.
Tru, I\'ve had these thoughts, too. Widowhood definitely puts things into a strange kind of perspective. When Joe was sick, and now, too, I had a friend, a local businessman, who would come to the store and we\'d go outside for a \"therapy\" session, as we jokingly described it. He\'s a 7 year out stage 4 cancer surviver. He said to me, the majority of us live our lives - and when we die, if we\'re lucky, we\'ve done what we could do, and leave a little ripple effect with those who knew us. It\'s all in the day to day. I think of that. Especially those days when I think, exactly what is the point here? Is the goal important, or the day to day living? Or both? I pose the same questions that you do.
Your comment certainly makes us thing of what is truly important and what is not. We have to put the things that are important first in our lives. The rest is garbage. My walk of faith is important to me so I have to put that first. It is not easy all the time but certainly in the end worth it 100 percent. What is important to you? From Diane B.